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How to Get Threesomes

There are two ways that I’ve successfully had threesomes (girl-girl-guy, not guy-guy-girl… although, I’ve had the latter too, but they’re not nearly as cool… for obvious reasons). Both of these methods are going to require a high level of experience. One of them (my preferred method) requires a bisexual girlfriend.

Introducing the girls to each other:

Introducing two girls to each other is a simple process, but extremely delicate and difficult in execution.

  1. To begin with, have two women in mind that you’d like to try this with. You should have already slept with them yourself. This isn’t 100% necessary, but things get far more difficult if one of the girls hasn’t already slept with you. Preferably you’ve slept with them both quite a bit they’re both comfortable with you. You want two women who are pretty open-minded and liberal, and also sexually adventurous.
  2. Broach the topic of bisexuality or being with a girl with them independently, preferably when in bed just before or after sex. If she’s warm, bring up a threesome as a “thought experiment.” Frame it in a positive light. If she seems into it, integrate it into your dirty talk during sex. In my experience, most women have at least some sort of curiosity about other women. Many of them aren’t open to the idea though. Some women are open to it but just not comfortable with it. In that case it’s your job to help her to feel comfortable with those urges.
  3. Once both women are warm to the idea, a couple weeks later bring the topic up again and casually mention, “You know, I know this really sexy girl. She’s bi and I bet she’d be down with trying something like that.” It’s cool if they know you’ve slept with the other one (in fact, it often helps). If both girls were warm in step two, getting them on board for giving it a shot shouldn’t be much more difficult.
  4. Plan a “spontaneous” meet up for the three of you. Tell each of them the same thing, “Hey I was supposed to hang out with that girl tonight, you want to meet her too?” Just leave it at that. Don’t create a “plan” to seduce her or anything. As soon as you start engaging either girl’s logical faculty, it’s all downhill. Be sure you tell the girl that you’re meeting up with the same thing, “Hey, I may be hanging out with that girl I mentioned, you mind if I bring her along? Just see if you like each other.”
  5. Meet up together. Logistics, as always, are easier said than done.
  6. You’ll know within 5 seconds if it’s on or not. Women decide this stuff lightning fast. If it’s on, you’ll know by how they engage each other, everyone will be a little bit nervous and tense
  7. Drink… the more the better.
  8. Bounce everyone back to your place, preferrably.
  9. Start making out with one and then the other, get them to make out and you should be home free. If one hasn’t freaked out by now (they often will), then it’s game over.

Picking up a girl with your bi-sexual girlfriend:

A reader writes:

If I understand it correctly, you and your ex-girlfriend, you guys would go out together and pick up other women. I’m basically in that place and have never been here before and don’t really know where to begin or what to do.

How do you identify a girl to go after that would be up for it that isn’t dykey and masculine?

Once a girl is identified, what is the role of the guy and the girl in terms of trying to pull the target?

I just assume that 80+% of women are at least bi-curious, so I don’t even bother with trying to screen them. Just pay attention to girls that you BOTH find attractive. This is actually a bit harder than it sounds because for whatever reason, women tend to have much different (and sometimes strange) tastes in other women. Venue choice will be important, as it should suit your personalities well and obviously be a fairly liberal and happening place. My ex-girlfriend was kind of an “artsy” type, and hated high-end clubs… So we found more interesting off-beat bars and lounges to hang out in.

When it comes to actually picking up the second girl, well… this bursts a lot of guys’ bubble… but your girl should do most of the leg-work. Basically almost EVERYTHING in the first 10-30 minutes of the pick up, she’s going to be better at and have huge advantages.

1) She’ll rarely, if ever, rejected on the approach.
2) She’s going to screen girls for bi-curiosity VERY quickly. One of my biggest mistakes was I’d work on a girl for like 30 minutes just to find out that she wasn’t into girls. If your girl opens her, then you’ll know within a minute.
3) The only caveat to this is that you’re going to do better in girl groups, she’ll do better in groups with guys. If there’s 3-4 girls, this is actually the only situation that may shut her out. So if you go in and isolate your the girl you want ASAP, then bring your girlfriend in, do it that way.

The problem with this is that a lot of girlfriends love the IDEA of “picking up together,” but when it comes time and you say something like, “OK, go hit on that brunette…” they stop and stutter and suddenly decide they’d rather just be with you… As in all threesome scenarios, managing her security is pretty fragile.

If she DOES approach and is pretty upfront about it (not necessarily direct, but she should be pretty openly flirting with the girl), you’ll actually be surprised by the success rate.

She will get rejected very, very seldom. The one’s she’s not, maybe 1/3 or 1/2 will show SOME interest… and then within another 30-40 minutes about 1/2 of those will turn out to be “fake” interest — like they just liked the attention or just wanted to make out and entertain the idea.

You actually lose a lot of girls to other guys… in most cases. Not that guys come in and interfere (they never do), or ever catch on to what’s actually going on (they’re always oblivious), often times the girl just knows she can already get with X guy over here, and she’s not sure if experimenting with a threesome or with a girl is an upgrade or not. Nothing I or my ex ever tried prevented this either. I think it’s just that having a guy in the bag is a lot more secure and comfortable to them, so they lean towards that.

Anyway… once the interest is reciprocated, that’s when I jump in. This makes it super easy, because if she’s is into your girlfriend, and your girlfriend introduces you as “the guy” then social proof takes care of most of your attraction work for you. Trying to build attraction actually doesn’t help a whole lot in threesome game because it just creates awkward dynamics between the three of you more often than not. Inevitably, you just end up overgaming yourself out of a shot.

Also, if you’ve made it this far, they will NEVER flake on you. Girls don’t ever flake on girls. It’s amazing and mind-boggling. Our call-back rate together must have been (again, have your girl get the number and call) must have been 95+% whereas the actually threesome percentage was probably 1-5%

The reason for your girl to lead in the beginning is that women just trust other women pretty much instantaneously. It doesn’t matter how awesome your “game,” is… when you proposition a girl with a threesome yourself, she’ll ALWAYS be questioning your motives in the back of her mind. She’s less likely to believe you. The few times I got girls on board with it all by myself (after like an hour’s worth of work versus like five minutes for my girlfriend), my girlfriend would get pissed because she thought the girl just wanted to sleep with me and not both of us.

Girl-girl-guy threesomes always have to be about the girls. Always. You’re just along for the ride (no pun intended). So that combined with the fact that she’s going to have such huge natural advantages over you, means she should be doing most of the “picking up” on her own.

So, the three of you hang out and you flirt with her a bit and get to know her a bit. It’s around this point either you or your girl mentions her coming home with you. Most girls meet this with shock. They don’t think you’re for real. And then when they realize you are, you’ll lose about 1/2 of them just because they can’t handle it.

Some of them will just kind of flip out and leave. Some will be extremely flattered but just not be able to wrap their mind around it. Some will say they want to, but they can’t for X, Y and Z reasons — and then continue to text you and call you for six months but never do it.

Sometimes you get a situation where she only wants you or she only wants your girl. These can be awkward, and can actually test both of your insecurities. My girlfriend usually hated it. Although one time she did bring a girl home with us because she knew I was really into her and wanted to make me happy (we were very close and secure in our relationship by this time).

There was one time where the girl just wanted to get with her… and did. They ate each other out in the bathroom of the club. That was… kind of weird… hahaha… but cool I suppose. I won’t lie, my ego was a bit bruised… but who cares, it made them happy.

If you’re lucky and she seems down for it, once there’s the implied “go,” that’s when you take over. Manage all logistics. Take care of everyone. Buy everyone drinks. Be sexual with both of them and get them to be sexual towards each other.

What happens a lot is that they “team up” on you at this point… and will tease you together… Just let it happen, it’s part of them making the situation comfortable for themselves… It can be uncomfortable, but don’t worry… it’s a sign that you’re set. They’ll sit there and make fun of you or give you shit, and you just smile and nod and think to yourself “I am going to be banging both of you in about an hour for that…”

Take them home. I used to think you should get them kissing first… but later on I’d initiate the kiss a lot and it worked just as well. Just make sure your girl is cool with it.

In fact, that’s hugely important, make sure you and her talk about established boundaries BEFORE any of this happens. Is she cool eating her out? Is she cool with you doing it? Is she cool with you two making out? Etc. Etc.

Enjoy!

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11 comments to How to Get Threesomes

  • Doc Holliday

    Nigga, you gay.

  • Octa

    I have a question about 3-somes.

    I’m real sorry you’re pussying out about too much pussy, it must be fuckin awesome to be able to fuck so many chicks so easily like you do, but us puas down here on planet earth still can’t pull any cold-approach 3-somes.

    I’m really getting down about this and don’t know what to do about my life anymore. I took a bc and they all told me that you’re still a virgin til you pulled a ONS cold approached 3-some. Which means I’m still a virgin even tho I fucked a couple individual chicks already.

    My best atempt was 2 weekends ago, but I blew it. The chicks hear are such bitches, man. I approached two chicks at the best bar hear. Big tits, cougars, like 28 or something, totally stupid, you know. I did a direct opener, followed with a great attraction stack, DHV’d myself, used a spin dance move to steal their seat and make one of them stand so I’d be the most comfortable one there, flipped into some deep comfort about childhood and puppies to show them I cared about them as people and not just pussy, make them think they’ve known me all their lives. The usual pua shit, you know, it worked great. Also, I was peecocking with my belt buckle, so that added to my value and made the comfort shit go over more smooth.

    I did some kiss games with them (standard TMM stuff), pretty soon I had a 3-way make-out. I broke protocol at that point about no drinks for bitches and bought them a bunch of shots, I figured it’d be better to inerbretiate them so they wouldn’t realize what was happening.

    I thought about your advice to be aggressive and go for it, also I remembered Doc’s shit about whipping it out especially if you’re blessed with size, so I whipped it out and told them to look good at the monster dong because they could each get some of it tonight. It’s like an aggressive move plus it uses the jelousy subplotline, right? But dude, it should’ve worked right, I think I did it correctly, I even told them I’d change condoms between girls like they taught in the bc, but the bitches freaked out and fucking got me thrown out of the place.

    So what did I do wrong? I’ve really analised this a lot and I think it was because it was suplicating when I bought them shots, if I’d made the chicks buy their own drinks, they would’ve recognized me more as an alpha and would’ve been more impressed when I whipped it out, what do you think?

    • Octa, even tough it has been 4 years and you probably won’t be reading this I’ll still write it down for others to see.

      You blew it when you took it out man. Let’s be honest that would freak anyone out…not in a public place man, that just screams insane.

  • Entropy4

    When Chanks attacks… LOL!

  • Freddy

    Your girlfriend was cool as fuck

  • Yeah, she definitely was.

    But don’t get the wrong idea… she wasn’t just like this all the sudden.

    To get to this level, we built up trust and intimacy over the course of a year or two. That and she didn’t REALLY get on board with the tandem thing until after we had a couple threesomes already.

    But after she had done it and loved it, and once she felt 100% secure in my commitment to her, I couldn’t have stopped her if I had wanted to.

    • David

      Wow. I had a similar situation with my ex. She was bisexual and we enjoyed threesomes together. The difference was though I never made her feel 100% secure in my commitment to her… in fact I did quite the opposite, she was my primary MLTR but knew I reserved the right to sleep with other girls now and then.

      I’m wondering if it was this stress (through lack of security) building up that caused the eventual demise of the relationship. Maybe it was about to happen anyway.

      It was a real shame I had to end it, we were just fighting constantly. Like a huge hurtful yelling match once a week. The breakup is still all pretty fresh – less than a month of incommunicado.

      Not the healthiest of thoughts to dwell on however I do wonder if I committed to her more and made her feel secure things would have been different. She was perfect in many ways, age, cool, hot, sexy, bisexual.

      In fact, her being bisexual may have been part of the problem. Her last two year long relationships were with girls and she was the dominant half in those. That’s probably why we butted heads, as naturally I’m dominant myself (although I can compromise). I’d call her up on 2nd class behaviour (like keeping me waiting around for over an hour, etc) and then a fight would ensue.

      Any thoughts on the security/commitment above Mark?

      • Mark

        Like I said, with my ex and the other bi girls I’ve talked to, this has always been the case. My ex was a pretty dominant chick as well, although she never dated girls before (she prefers men). It’s hard to say… in long-term relationships, you have a lot of variables going on… especially when there you are two complex individuals.

  • Matrix

    cool article man, learned some shit I didn’t know.
    props

  • @Octa

    @Octa, you did your whole life wrong

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