I wasn't going to post, for the same reason you opened a new thread
, but thinking about this shed some light on my relationship.
Looks like you do care for this girl and enjoy spending time with her. Caring is a form of love, isn't it? It may not be the lustful "this is the one and I want you all for me", but nevertheless you are giving to her.
Although this is probably different for her, how would you feel if some chick you really like told you that she enjoyed spending time with you but wasn't ready for a relationship? Would you want her to give it all to you or to stand back not to hurt your feelings?
You don't need to tell her about other women. It should be enough that you tell her that you are not ready to have a committed relationship with her, although you like her a lot. The more you trust that she can deal with it, the more she'll realize that it's on her hands and more empowered she is likely to feel.
Acting like your actions can hurt her, seems conductive to her feeling mislead and hurt. Does it make sense?
This is where I've been doing it wrong. I avoid looking my girl in the eyes, bc I don't want her to know how much I like her. I've been seeing my primary for 6 months, usually once a week, and in August we had a break bc she "is too sensitive to be just a fuck buddy". We talked after we restarted seeing, and she seems to have rationalised the age gap (12 years) as the main obstacle for something more. Nevertheless, I feel that she is way more invested than me, and is often qualifying herself. I've been fearing letting her go deep with me, when I should just enjoy and cheer the great thing we've build.