Hello guys

Okay so i think its time to write about many ideas that i have around my head i have been procrastinating writing in this forum(which i consider the healthiest around the web) i have been reading many posts but never actually write about my own concers nor post in any threads. So i want comments on this 2 things

1.- Expecting a good connection with a woman in a club is unrealistic? when i just go with my friends and just grab a girl for dancing isnt that hard but then my sticking point comes when i want to get a lasting connection and getting a solid number to go on a date im doing something wrong or is just the tendency of a club? just makeouts no numbers

2.- On club fights what would you have done if you were dancing with a girl and randomly she tells you to grab some drinks and then when you going through the place 3 random guys start threatening you, you camly try to get away and one of them punches you in the back head you would have pick up the fight right there or with your friends the problem is that im not sure yet if i should have just punch the guy right there. im a person who gets mad easily but i just thought i wasnt a good idea so the matter its bothering me thoughts?(i know i could have take the guy down i was at least 20 pounds bigger and i have been hitting the gym hard the last year)

The point of kicking someone's ass for attacking you isnt about impressing the girl. It's about you value yourself and you dont allow people to give you shit.

If you value the girl's opinion to the point you're afraid to defend yourself, no one will respect you. Guys or girls.

Nothing to do with the girl it was actually more of being intelligent and not getting into a fight rather than just exchanging hits and getting kicked off the club + getting my friends also involve what would you have done bryan and why

If someone sucker punch me in the head, I would've kick his ass. That's the kind of disrespect i cant tolerate.

Unless i know for a fact the dude has more skills or bigger than me and i will lose a fight. If i can win, i would do it. My friends should have my back in that instant if they're truly my friends.

As for connection with girls at the club, it's pretty rare. But then again, i'm biase since i do 99 percent day game nowaday. Girls during the day are simply more intelligent and have better attitudes.

Connections in the club can happen, they're just harder to build and maintain. BUT I actually think they can often be more powerful.

I avoid fights if at all possible. If I got hit in the back of the head, I don't know, would depend on who hit me and the situation.

(10-18-2011 07:23 AM)Cobz Wrote:  2.- On club fights what would you have done if you were dancing with a girl and randomly she tells you to grab some drinks and then when you going through the place 3 random guys start threatening you, you camly try to get away and one of them punches you in the back head you would have pick up the fight right there or with your friends the problem is that im not sure yet if i should have just punch the guy right there. im a person who gets mad easily but i just thought i wasnt a good idea so the matter its bothering me thoughts?(i know i could have take the guy down i was at least 20 pounds bigger and i have been hitting the gym hard the last year)

If you had those 20 pounds they probably wouldn't mess with you. Then again...
You were in a bar, testosterone is high, there's alcohol and god knows what involved, benches, furniture, bottles and glasses around, and that may not be all. You probably do not want to have a fight unless you absolutely must to. I hope you got the cops/security involved, though.

Two weeks ago I was in a bar with my friends and I see a bunch of guys going though just behind us, a bench falling and a glass flying. Then one of the guys is pulled and choked by a security guy that seemed to be enjoying his free day. His face turned pink and my friend decided to tell off the security I picked the bench from the floor and went to pull by bud away. Apparently the guy had thrown a glass to another guy, a 6 3' bull with an amazing build; he got hit with the glass in his face and the blood stained his white shirt. Don't know what happen in the dance floor, where they were coming from, the other guy was probably only 5 4'. But he was in a group, several of these "bad ass" looking mid-eastern/southern european guys. I actually spotted then in the line and got a feeling that they were up to trouble. Anyway, the big guy actually got lucky the glass didn't hit him in the eye or in the head.

(10-18-2011 07:23 AM)Cobz Wrote:  Hello guys

Okay so i think its time to write about many ideas that i have around my head i have been procrastinating writing in this forum(which i consider the healthiest around the web) i have been reading many posts but never actually write about my own concers nor post in any threads. So i want comments on this 2 things

1.- Expecting a good connection with a woman in a club is unrealistic? when i just go with my friends and just grab a girl for dancing isnt that hard but then my sticking point comes when i want to get a lasting connection and getting a solid number to go on a date im doing something wrong or is just the tendency of a club? just makeouts no numbers

2.- On club fights what would you have done if you were dancing with a girl and randomly she tells you to grab some drinks and then when you going through the place 3 random guys start threatening you, you camly try to get away and one of them punches you in the back head you would have pick up the fight right there or with your friends the problem is that im not sure yet if i should have just punch the guy right there. im a person who gets mad easily but i just thought i wasnt a good idea so the matter its bothering me thoughts?(i know i could have take the guy down i was at least 20 pounds bigger and i have been hitting the gym hard the last year)

1. Yes you can get connections with girls at the clubs and bars. If you want to make the set really solid and the girl to fall in "love" with you then yes. It's when youre going for emmotional connection. You need to push the set all the way as far as you can go.

Instead of going for makeouts try qualifying and doing some comfort (light rapport and deep rapport) first. Then kiss then number. Qualify in terms of tell her why you like her for more than her looks.

2. Never ever get into a fight. You may never know what's going to happen and you can get seriously hurt. If shit like that happens go tell the bouncer. Problem done. Plus I don't know what places you go to and your attitude is reflecting off them, because they shouldnt have punched you unless youre doing something to start it in the first place... However, it does happen very very rarely then tell the bouncers.......... Next is to make sure you are equiped to getting in a fight and not getting seriously injured. I would not recommend fighting because you might never know how if the guy has gun etc....

(10-18-2011 02:00 PM)Brian Wrote:  If someone sucker punch me in the head, I would've kick his ass. That's the kind of disrespect i cant tolerate.

Unless i know for a fact the dude has more skills or bigger than me and i will lose a fight. If i can win, i would do it. My friends should have my back in that instant if they're truly my friends.

As for connection with girls at the club, it's pretty rare. But then again, i'm biase since i do 99 percent day game nowaday. Girls during the day are simply more intelligent and have better attitudes.

That was my friends philosophy. Until one night he tried it and got smashed in the face by the guys friend with a beer bottle. I'm sure it'll work out for you though...