The woes of a single man...
I know this isn't exactly covering new ground, but its something that I'm experiencing at the moment.
I've recently finished university/college, and now working 5 days a week in the financial district of london.
Basically, I'm finding the contrast in terms of readily available women much lower now then it was at university. In my office, there are no feasible/realistic women to hit on. There are a few nice looking women, but are both much older and also married. So thats not really a realistic target for me.
I'm just finding its tough to meet girls now that I'm working all the time. Ok, I see a few nice girls walking around at lunch..But realistically, cold approaching just isn't the done thing around here. But may have to start this. I just would rather go about it another way.
Generally, I find week nights I'm seriously tired from the day, I don't have the energy to go out to bars every night, and at the moment I don't have the money either, as I don't get my first paycheck till the end of the month.
So that leaves the weekends. Where I've had a couple of one night stands over the last few months. Nothing more. I've been able to pick up some barely average to average/just above average girls. But no hot girls.
But the real crux is, I want to find a girl that I can actually develop something with. I've been playing the 'field' over the last few years and had a regular amount of one night stands etc, but to be honest, I'm getting bored of that lifestyle. It doesn't leave you in the best of emotional states in a deeper, longer term way.
But since I don't have any girls at my work that are realistic at all, I'm not sure where I'm going to 'develop' something more long term with a girl just yet. I think having a LTR would be healthy for me right now. Would make weekends more casual and relaxed, would prefer to chill with gf then have to go out, get drunk, spend loads of money, and have a one night stand possibly. I just don't think its worth the hassle.
So thats my problem..where do I meet a girl that I can actually develop something with?
I guess these things are sometimes cyclical and sometimes just about being the right moment at the right time etc. Maybe I will meet a girl randomly soon, maybe after work/on the weekends and something will begin.
But the truth is, it gets depressing. I haven't had a relationship in over 4-5 years now. I think I'm fairly good looking, and a fun person to be around, and I get a fair share of action with girls in a 'pleasure' sense. But when it comes to forming actual relationships with girls, it just doesn't seem to happen, and it does get frustrating. As if for whatever reason, it just won't happen for me.
And maybe its just the way it goes sometimes. Perhaps when we are young men, still not 'mature' in some senses its one of those things, that may become more realistic in time. But still. Would like a gf, but can't seem to find one..
Maybe I just need to make extra effort to approach girls that I see that give me that 'wow' feeling..its just so often its in a really public place, like a tube, or a coffee shop, and its the kind of thing where everyone hears/sees you trying to chat that girl up..And I dunno..generally from experience girls are more receptive to be chatted up if there are less people around. They don't want to be 'seen' as that girl who lets some stranger chat them up..if you know what I mean..
I hope this wasn't too boring/long to read. I wonder if anyone has any similar experience/advice/thoughts. Thanks.