I'm getting a little frustrated.

I'm not entirely certain how to "be myself" online.

I've tried to follow Marks model on his post regarding online game. But frankly I'm just not getting ANY replies.

I figure my profile shows myself accurately, although Mark claims it doesn't matter. Does this mean I ought to tone it down more?

http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=32459622

opinions/comments? (then again I guess the message I send her matters more than the profile doesn't it?)

So online profiles amplify whatever aspect of your personality and interests you highlight. Thus, there are a few things to keep in mind to avoid giving a girl a skewed impression.

1) Remove all photos of guns from your profile.
- Liking guns is fine, but having photos of you with guns out of context sends of alarm bells. In person you can totally contextualize it "oh i like hunting I always went with my family" or "yeah I am an army brat, I grew up around guns" etc.


2) Don't use the words bitch or asshole in the profile.
- Makes you seem kinda angry.

3) Don't talk about sex or "eroticism"
- makes you sound obsessively horny

basically, more stuff like this

"Initially I had a scholarship to sing opera (I'm a low bass fyi). But after getting more into theory, I've learned that my passion truly lies in composing my own music, and performing it for my peers. So that's what I'm studying."

Hrmm, that makes sense.

I mean, the guns was from a camping trip. I'm really not "into" them at all.

As for Eroticism, I actually am, but then again I suppose it's a balance between what's gonna turn them off (whereas it's something I could obviously introduce later on) and who I want to be.

I'd definitely like more opinions but I'll take your advice for now.

See I see a lot of ladies who say bitch and asshole all over their profile, not to mention guns. Frankly, me is me, and (thanks in part to Mark's and also Glover's awesome books) I'm learning to be more comfortable with how I see women and the way I desire them. I say that being too bad is better than being too vanilla. [not to mention it'll just weed out the girls who aren't into the kind of stuff I'm into.] Cuz after all, it's more about finding women that I like rather than getting as many girls as possible to like me.

What do you mean by "eroticism"

Also, it's good to be assertive about what you want, but I never presume to tell women what they want. I just let them know what's on offer. There's a difference?

Gender roles, why women do what they do, why men do what they do, how the sexual experience is different for each person, how to intensify people's experiences, the effects it has on their emotional state and physical well be.

Your sexual state is the most primal emotion you have, it's the most "human" thing about us. I find it both fascinating and compelling to learn about.

Frankly i find it a little sad that I list all these wildly different interests and hobbies and yet just because one of them is Eroticism that men and women are gonna see that and go "oh what a perv, he's obsessed with sex (even though it's only one of many things he's into)"

Treat your online profile like a resume -- nothing that could be taken badly. It's the nature of the medium. Your profile is a sales pitch. Sharing yourself and conveying your personality for real happens through email and in person. Cute girls online get dozens of messages each week. Therefore they're looking for every reason to disqualify a guy when he messages her. It's just the supply/demand of online dating, no sense in complaining about it.

Therefore I agree with Jon, remove anything gun-related or words like "eroticism" or anything that could be construed negatively. Save some stuff for the dates.

Don't like your look/ image or any of your pics either. I imagine when girls look at it they think the same thing.

like your look? I don't think there's any kind of liking thing on pof. But yeah, I understand what you mean.

I really appreciate the advice.

All right, I've switched it all up. Should be allot better now.

Comments?

I wrote on mine one that "i can kinda be an asshole sometimes" and followed it up with this story" I once told my grandma that "LOL" meant "lots of love" and one day at a funeral she wrote on the guest book "sorry for your loss, LOL".... totally not funny, but I can't help but smile at my grandma... yeah, im an asshole"

I dunno if its good or bad but it seemed to get a lot of responses

That's hilarious. LOL.

rolando, your profile improved a lot since the last time I looked at it.