Been approaching like crazy recently... actually, I've been running kinda amok, mainly to try to get over a bit of a one-itis case. Lots of really direct, "hey, you're hot, I'm gonna talk to you now" sort of stuff, which is actually, shockingly, working. Well, kinda.

Weird experience on Friday night. I was in a bar in a nearby college town, group of 5 walks in -- 2 guys and 3 hot girls. The unattached hot girl comes near, and I swoop in. Norwegian. Like 21. Only been in the US for 2 months. And I'm in rare form. I tell her to sit on the barstool next to me. She does so. Her friends kindly wander off. Conversation works perfectly. She's obviously digging. No distractions -- she ignores the friends, the cellphone, all the usual shit that girls don't ignore unless they're into you. She finds everything I say hilarious. Etc.

So I start to physically escalate. And it's like very passive on her end. It's really weird. She's still totally engaged on a conversational level, and she must know that my hand is on her ass, and she doesn't seem to object to it, but she doesn't touch me back at all. And I'm like, OK...

This goes on for a while. She basically doesn't resist anything physical, but doesn't reciprocate either. (And no, I'm not buying her drinks or anything.)

So I go for a kiss. Rebuffed. Back to the beginning. More of the same one-sided physical with two-sided conversation. Still obvious she's into me, and, hell, I even got verbal confirmation (I told her she's hot, she says I am too). Plus she's obviously sent one of those weird mystic female "go away, I like this guy" signals to her friends, because they're way outta sight, and don't actually reemerge until the bar closes.

So this goes on and on and on and on, the bar closes, I grab her by the hand and lead her out. Go for another kiss outside. Rebuffed again. She goes off with her friends. I go for a phone number, end up with facebook and then nada.

The fuck? How do I manage to keep a hot girl's sole attention for like an hour in a decently-crowded bar, practically grope her with no objection, and still go nowhere?

My best guess - she was into you but is not so into PDA. When a girl shows signs of interest but resists escalation, you have to ease off the physicality. Go for the phone number in the club and then bounce her before closing time.

Thanks man, that makes a ton of sense.