Im sry If ur not allowed to talk about this on this forum, im not sure, if thats the case just remove the thread.

I was out tonight, again, doing some approaches, some went ok, most sucked cause I was stuck with what to say, did go into interview mode automaticly and from there it just bailed.

Got 2 makeouts on the dancefloor tho, my dancefloor game is like, just go up, get physical fast and go for it, works out pretty well actually, lol, but when it comes to being socially skilled, it just sucks.

However, I met this internet friend who is this mystery method maniac, he have been doing it for like a year or something and talking constantly about it. I usually werent that interested in the things he use to say about it cause Ive heard so much negative about the method. Anyway, seeing him tonight totally dominating the club got me thinking, he made out with alot of girls, got very many phone numbers and it just seemed like almost all the girls were interested in him, then he followed this hottie home (he has supposed to sleep over at my place.. but ehm yeah, he hooked up with her I guess, so).

Anyway, this got me interested, is there some common thing that people who get good at this method have? I dont know much all about it more than its about "button pushing" or something that I heard Tyler say, and manipulation, so I never cared to look it up.

After tonight Im not sure, maybe that stuff will get me better socially, like a road-map to follow? OR is it guys who already are social who will get good at that thing fast?

I appreciate your experience and knowledge about this.

Thanks

Palf, dude, you are seriously confused. I'm again going to ask you to figure out exactly what you want from all this. You are not doing badly with girls. So what do you want? Validation from other guys? Validation from girls? What do you want? BTW, I'm not discouraging any of these goals. Even if its validation, so be it. This is very important to understand. Otherwise you have no way of getting what you want and you'll be unhappy even if you get something that is related, because it is not exactly what you want. Take some time to think about this. If you are looking to be the man in the club, mystery method is great. If you want to get laid, there are far easier methods out there. If you are just looking for social skills, you don't really need to do pickup. Just go out and talk to a bunch of people. If it is social skills you want, girls don't really figure in that picture do they? So figure out what you want. Otherwise you will just be lashing in the dark and getting frustrated.

People who get good at pickup all have one thing in common - desire. People who get good at MM have two things in common - they like attention and they have desire.

Yah man thanks. I want both better social skills but I also want to spend the next year or two having alot of different sexual experiences since I havent had so many in my life yet. I want to get to know alot of new awesome people and I want to get better at "being the man" or "the party", that fun source that everyone wanna get to know. I wanna build a great and big social life with activities and get good pickup skills aswell.

If you had to choose between "being the man" and getting laid, what would you choose? Make that your first priority. Remember, being the man does not neccessarily correlate with getting laid. It could, but it doesn't have to. Otherwise rich guys who have bottle service in a club wouldn't have to hire escorts. So understand what you want. Funnily enough, when I started, I was asked to do the exact same thing by a bunch of pickup material. Just like you, I dismissed it as stupid and gave a kneejerk answer. After 3 years, I got good social skills and even started getting laid, but I still didn't feel I had achieved anything. So what gives?

Hate to hock my own shit here, but you really need to read my book Palf.

Chapters 2-3 cover why stuff like Mystery Method work in the short-term, but fail in the long-term.
Chapters 11-14 cover social skills and flirting extensively.

(09-24-2011 04:02 PM)Mark Wrote:  Hate to hock my own shit here, but you really need to read my book Palf.

Chapters 2-3 cover why stuff like Mystery Method work in the short-term, but fail in the long-term.
Chapters 11-14 cover social skills and flirting extensively.

Alright thanks man, Ill buy it, just got my paycheck so whatevzzz!