Ok here's the scenario:

Met a girl in a Trader Joe's. Went on a Saturday date for chai tea and cookies; walked to a bookstore and around a sculpture garden. I was qualifying, playful, sexual, and physical. I think I "executed" very well, and we both had a genuinely good time. Talked about doing it again. Ended in a warm hug and a kiss on the lips (I wasn't pushing for more). I text her shortly after the date, and she responds quickly.

Monday, I text her around lunch and she responds 2 hours later. I respond to her 2 hours after that. The text is playful, but doesn't necessarily require a response - and she doesn't respond.

Tuesday I text around noon, playfully requesting a date on Saturday. Hours pass and I assume she's not interested anymore. Wednesday around noon she responds, saying Saturday works but it must be after 6pm.

So she waited 24 hours to respond to my text. Who knows why.

During the 24 hours, I remember that I have plans Saturday at 9pm (and she would need to meet after 6pm).

My question: how would you respond to? What next step would you take - and how long would you wait?

Would like to hear from the folks here, and then I'll explain what I actually did...

Too much analysis. Looks like the girl has a life outside of u. U on the other hand....

If sat after 6pm doesn't work. Tell her it doesn't work and propose a new time in the evening. Don't propose another daytime date. It doesnt help in closing. End of story.

The 24 hour reply was her confirming outstanding plans (the reason she is busy until 6 presumably). She said she wants to go out with you, so trust that she does. Your bad though on not remembering you're busy Saturday night. Here is what I sugges- First of all pick up the phone and call her. I don't understand why this has become so tabu. Then you tell her this: You completely forgot that you have to be somewhere at 9 and totally understand she is busy until 6 but that you really want to see her. So suggest just getting a quick drink or an appetizer. After you propose this, then ask her out for Sunday or a day during the week for a date that is not on a time limit. I think she will be flattered that you are going to make adjustments in order to see her, and this way you've already insured a 3rd date. Call her though, it leaves much less to be desired and won't leave you wondering.

Why weren't you "pushing for more"? Women want you be desired, and you denied her the opportunity to be desired. Instead you protected your ego by avoiding rejection from escalating.

In your situation, I would either cancel my Saturday plans for her (it seems like you didn't care much about your Saturday plans either if you forgot) or make plans with her on Sunday.

As a final note, she dropped you a big hint: she wants you to make plans after 6pm most likely because she wants to have sex with you.

I do the exact same thing, but you CANT read into response times in texts because tons of things occur on a daily basis and I don't return texts from girls I am attracted to sometimes because LIFE HAPPENS.

What I try to do, which has helped me immensely is ////SEND IT AND FORGET IT////. Your texts only exist until you send them or see that they have sent you another text. And when you are tempted to look back and check to see for their response every 5 minutes, say that to yourself. You'll find that those 5 minute gaps between checking your phone turn to 5 hours. If you have the type of social value that attracts women, then you can't be concerned with one text conversation, I damn well know these women aren't

I also know a girl who is obsessed with her phone but takes a while to respond to texts, it was actually a turn off for me because it makes me think she is too calculated as I know she's seen the text but doesn't respond for a while. If you think she's a game player, stay away, unless that's your thing

"As a final note, she dropped you a big hint: she wants you to make plans after 6pm most likely because she wants to have sex with you."
LOL! @zerokevin- That is a pretty vain thought, there is no possible way that this girl could have plans or a life or anything? I highly highly highly doubt x100 that sex is her motive to having to get together later than 6. Just so you know, you can have sex at any time of the day or night

@yourgettingitwrong: You bring up good points, but I agree with zerokelvin. First, while it is true that you can have sex during the day or night, night is the time usually associated with sex and intimacy. Second, if she was not ok with having sex and was busy that day, she would have proposed a daytime meet on some other day. Third, our decisions are more emotional than logical. She may not be consciously thinking that she wants to have sex, but the subconscious seed determined her actions. Fourth, even if this were not true, if slim's goal is to fuck this chick, it is helpful to interpret her actions as such.

1AM on a Friday night is a "let's fuck" time. 6PM is not. 6PM is for going to the library and watching Simpsons re-runs.

Lot of mental masturbation going on in this thread.

Thanks all. What I actually did was send a playful text saying that now I had plans for Saturday, and that she should text faster next time! We'll see if this killed my chances with her

In retrospect, part of me wishes I had worked around her schedule. Live and learn Good thing there are plenty of fish in the sea!

(09-20-2011 06:47 AM)Mark Wrote:  1AM on a Friday night is a "let's fuck" time. 6PM is not. 6PM is for going to the library and watching Simpsons re-runs.

Lot of mental masturbation going on in this thread.

Don't see how it is counter productive to believe that she wants to fuck. Neither you nor I know why she said after 6pm. Might as well believe what is most useful.