Unlike most of you I am not even 20 (about to turn 19 in October) yet, still in college but I go to college near home due to making some mistakes in high school. I also live in a progressive area of America (Alabama wooohooo not rly ). So I am hoping some of you who are over 20 can perhaps give me some advice because I don't plan on being on this messageboard for long.

I like to consider myself American (I was born in India, family moved to the western hemisphere when I was about 3 years old, we lived in Western Europe for a while and came to the US when I was about 10 years old). In my area interracial relationships are pretty much taboo unless it is Black on White and even that is not as common. I have had girls show interest in me and I have danced with girls before and received some compliments so I guess that is a fair start. But a lot have also told me that if I want to date them I better keep it secret from their parents because their parents will not take kindly to it, I did date a girl for like 4 weeks but her mother caught us and had a word with me in public (didn't go down so well).

When I am done with college (just finished my first year recently), I want to move out to California or up to the Northeast.

Now on the websites I see and hear about White, Asian, Hispanic, Black, and all types of men except for Indian men engaging in interracial relationships. This may turn a lot of you against me but I am not into Indian girls and my parents don't care if I date or marry one (they would actually prefer I don't as they are Westernised themselves). I want to date interracial and go with girls outside of my own background, is that even a possibility? Posting a poll to get a general idea.

As for my stats, I have started weight lifting. I am 5"11, weight about 170 lbs, and I have an average build which I look to turn into a six pack.

An odd thing is a lot of people have told me I look more arab/middle eastern than Indian which I don't even know what they mean

Also, I will post about 2 more race threads because due to living down here I have some minor insecurities about my ethnic background which I am sure some information and advice can fix. Thanks.

You are probably the guy who has posted "race threads" in different PUA forums over and over again. The famous "Indian troll".

Our assumptions on your possibilities in interracial dating do not fix any insecurities of yours. The only thing that will help you fix these insecurities is positive real-life experience with interracial dating. But for this, you have to go out and start approaching girls.

Stop trolling PUA forums with the same question over and over again. Mental masturbation will not help you.

Go out tomorrow and approach 10 girls, instead of KJing here.

Good that you started working out.

(Sorry to be harsh to you.)

Yes you can do well. Some girls will care, most won't. Some girls will find you more attractive.

Let me ask u a question which should fix this once and for all.

If I told u, that your chances of dating interracially are .01%, what would u do? Will u start dating Indian girls (fat chance of that in Alabama) or would u say fuck it, I'll take those odds and do what it takes because that is what I'm attracted to? Will u give up or will u fight for what u want?

It doesn't matter if 0 Indian men have succeeded, believe that u'll be the first one and take relentless action and you will be the first one. The world is a large place and attraction is a funny thing. So stop looking for excuses to blame ur lack of success and get cracking. This means doing what it takes to get what u want. Eg. Moving to a big city as soon as possible.

yes, I have posted on other forums only to not have received an answer at all, this one seemed like a good idea because after this forum I was planning on just seeing it for myself but the problem is I just don't know

and guys, I am not a troll like the other guy says I am, the only forum I ran into problems with is the Roosh V forum and that is because i challenged him on this

http://www.rooshv.com/totem-pole-of-race-attractiveness

they throw all this crap out about how Indian men are this and that and I don't know how things work at clubs and bars, I can't even enter a bar

Ugh, I remember someone emailing me that post months ago. It's terrible.

Look, Indian guys can do perfectly fine. I've known multiple Indian guys who do great with girls of other races. One of my best friends is an Indian guy, and he's been dating a cute white girl for over two years.

The sooner you get over this, the better.

(09-07-2011 01:04 PM)Mark Wrote:  Ugh, I remember someone emailing me that post months ago. It's terrible.

Look, Indian guys can do perfectly fine. I've known multiple Indian guys who do great with girls of other races. One of my best friends is an Indian guy, and he's been dating a cute white girl for over two years.

The sooner you get over this, the better.

thats the worst part, I get over it for a month and then all of a sudden it just comes back when I hear Indian jokes in real life and stuff

sooo frustrating to live in this town but thanks for contributing man

I don't see a problem with Roosh's post. So what if he believes that to be the case? In fact, so what if it is true? He clearly gives an example to the contrary in the post. I'm sorry, it has nothing to do with the post and everything to do with your excuse-making. Just fucking get over it already and go hit on some chicks.

Race is only as big of a deal as you make it out to be. I was not even raised in the US, but I still don't feel out-of-place here. In fact, I don't even think of my race (asian) when I interact with women. Guess why? Because it is fucking irrelevant. I cannot change it. So I'll do what it takes to make do with it. This is no different than a short man blaming his height. These are just ways of protecting the ego. Watch the video below:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2MJ-NeXRcEk

If that man can do what he is doing, you and I can definitely get pussy. Believe me, he had way more excuses than you and I. So please shut the fuck up and go hit on some chicks. Just fucking get it done already. Stop protecting the fucking ego and get it done.

I would point out Matador, but then again he's also an amateur bodybuilder, so YMMV.

There's a term psychologists like to use called "salience", which describes to what extent a particular quality is prominent or defining. For example, a black women in a group of white women sees her blackness become salient, but in a group of men, her femaleness becomes salient.

What my experience has been is that if you act stereotypically Indian, if you make your Indianness salient, by wearing boring office clothes and speaking in a typical Indian accent, you'll often provoke a negative reaction from a lot of people. But if you don't make it an issue, then in my experience, it won't matter much. I've had girls think I was Mexican before, though that may just indicate that I was hitting on stupid chicks.


One more thing: you're going to have to take an American name when you're in set with non-Indian girls, or you're basically raping your game before you even approach. You can keep your Indian name for use with Indian friends and trusted acquaintances, but for strangers, you gotta use a fake name, which further decreases the chances of you being associated with a fobby Indian guy.

Also, you may wish to dress like the guys on Jersey Shore, because if you do that, people definitely won't think you're Indian.

no brah, down here they can tell you are indian just by looking at your facial features (heavy eyebrows, nose, etc)

i get mixed up for arab and persian which has led to a lot of bullying

also, situation here is rough, nearly all girls have boyfriends from early ages on and I have got close, talked to some asian girls and latinas (the very few we have) only to find out they were engaged at 19 (facebook info), it is so frustrating!