I never thought I was needy but I figured out that the reason I was getting flaked on or in the friend zone was because I came off as needy, even though I was willing to also give.

I obviously didn't want to be needy and just realizing it was a big part of that process so if you're reading this then hopefully you're pas the hard part.

For me, I just had to relieve myself of my outcome dependency. This is about realizing that their are tons of girls out there and it doesn't matter if it doesn't work out with them. This doesn't mean playing games with, or acting uninterested. Be directly interested, but show her that you are there to play, and she doesn't want to play than you'll find someone who will. Even if you don't have someone else to go play with instead, being able to express to her that you're comfortable wherever this interaction goes will make her more comfortable with you, if that makes any sense haha

Needy behavior is extremely hard to explain over online. After reading mark's book model, i came to an insight is needy is mostly an emotion.

If you feel needy, then there's zero doubt that your behavior, verbal and subcommunication will be needy. Right now when i hit on girls, i mostly monitor my own emotion as oppose to monitoring her. If i'm feeling needy, then i will start taking actions to change my emotion as oppose to her own emotion. As long as I feel more happier and less needy, then the rest will take care of itself.

I now realize how the feeling of non needy feels like. It's like after you have sex THEN you talk to a fat chick right after, your neediness is about -100 percent. That's the feeling you should have when you talk to girls and if you have that feeling, watch how much invested they are to you without you doing shit.