Hey guys,

I'm a 23 year old university student who first discovered the existence of a certain “seduction community” in 2006. While there were times when I did a few approaches, most of the time I was committed to working on other areas of my life, so my direct results were rather limited, euphemistically speaking. However, despite setbacks, my general attitute and confidence did improve, and my social life improved. I met a lot of cool people from whom I indirectly learned a lot about socializing and interacting with women.

All in all this made me realize that a lot of things proposed by the community is nerdy bullshit, and that a lot of people who congregate in lairs have serious issues and shouldn't be working on becoming a “pick up artist”, but first on getting a normal social lifestyle. So when I discovered Mark's blog, a lot of things he wrote, immediately clicked with me, because I had come to the same results already. As I supposed his board would attract like minded people (and a few peeks have proven me right already) this seems like a good place to talk with others about such stuff.

As I've just overcome a several months long episode of clinical depression, this seems to be a good time in my life to break with a few bad habits and to replace them with better ones. In this thread I shall write about how I go about fixing the broken parts of my lifestyle and, most importantly, about how I learn to find, meet, attract, and connect with beautiful women.

Hi mate!

So what are your plans? Social circle game? Cold approach pick up? Nightgame? Street game?

I am asking because I hold the opinion that it's necessary for a beginner to have clear plans as a guidance. If you want to get good with girls, you need self-discipline. And it's almost impossible to maintain that self-disciplin without concrete plans what to do.

Hey, sounds like you have a great attitude about things. Looking forward to reading your posts.

(08-20-2011 01:55 AM)General G Wrote:  So what are your plans? Social circle game? Cold approach pick up? Nightgame? Street game?

Everything! I want to make a habit out of flirting with women wherever I meet them. But I will concentrate on cold approaches, because my social circle doesn't have as many hot girls as the precinct or the night life. And cold approaching allows me to make mistakes without every time risking to seriously fuck up relations within my social circle.

As I see it, this is a numbers game and meeting more women might be the most effective thing I can do to improve my sex life right now. I think I've got a lot of areas already covered (personality, confidence) but I definitely do lack experience. One area I want to work on is my lifestyle. I've got a pretty solid base, but there are still some areas where it could be improved, especially as I neglected it quite a lot during the last few months. So far, I've made a daily routine of getting up reasonably early, started to slowly change my diet to something more healthy, taken up sports and other hobbies again and generally reduced the time spent procrastinating.

Quote:I am asking because I hold the opinion that it's necessary for a beginner to have clear plans as a guidance. If you want to get good with girls, you need self-discipline. And it's almost impossible to maintain that self-disciplin without concrete plans what to do.

My plan is to approach 10 girls a day for at least a month. I have no crippling anxiety, but while I did some approaches over the last years, in hindsight most of them were to prove to myself or to my buddies that I have no fear of talking to other women. I didn't do it regularly enough and I didn't really press for results, but sought to get rejected, to be done with it. That should lead to at least a few dates, and if it doesn't I at least will recognize what I can do better.

The precinct is always full of people, so finding enough women there to do my approaches shouldn't be a problem. However, I also intend to go out more often again, on the weekend and, if I have time, during the week as well. Right now, I don't have lots of suitable friends willing to go out that often, so I need to get comfortable with flying solo. I've done it a few times before, but I'm still nervous about it.

I aim to have sex with at least one girl I don't know yet, this year. Frankly, I can't really estimate how realistic or underachieving this goal is, but I'm going to find out.

(08-20-2011 04:04 AM)Jon Wrote:  Hey, sounds like you have a great attitude about things. Looking forward to reading your posts.

Thanks.

Good luck, Dragonslayer!

But don't give up if it costs you more than one month until you see regular success with cold approaches.

It has taken me one full year of permanent practice to go from a super-shy nerd who couldn't hold a simple conversation to getting dates (from cold approaches) on a regular level. If you start from a higher level of social skills, it will take you less time, of course.

Keep on posting your progress.