This is a very important lesson I learned from all you guys who verbally kicked my ass on the forum. Thanks by the way, I neeeded it. After reading my prior two threads without my ego of always wanting to be right, I deleted them. Why? I realized they were....well...STUPID. Looking back, I realized I was trying to backwards rationalize why I had been so good at the club that night. I guess I wanted to make it sound empowering, profound and new, and somehow came up with the bizarre mindset that was flamed in the other two threads. I didn't really believe it myself, but as soon as people started challenging it, for some reason all my years in debate club back in High School kicked in. So I started defending the weak mindset I came up with. The thing is I broke the number one rule of debate. Don't argue the WRONG side just for the sake of argument. Yes, I admit I was wrong. How's that for being vulnerable Mark
Anyways, I went out last night feeling good again. I chilled with my friends for a while but then went to work. This particular club was crowded as hell. You could honestly barely move around. I warmed up by talking to a five set. Four girls and a big gay guy. Cracking jokes about how crowded it was. Two of the girls were attractive but I knew the set wasn't going to go anywhere and that I might seem them later. But, honestly i wanted a hotter girl. Then, one of my black friends who's excellent at dance floor game called me over. He was already dancing with this smoking latina girl and put me on her friend. This girl was the epitome of gorgeous. But, i wasn't nervous at all, I was already feeling good. My wing kinda pushed me on her, so he could isolate his chick. It coulda been awkward, but it wasn't. I joked about her trying to sandwich my wing on the dance floor. She giggled and said she wasn't. I introduced myself and we danced face to face at first. I did some goofy stuff, then the Dougie song came on and I said I'd teach her how to do it ( I'm a beast at the Dougie ). Man could she move, and to me there's nothing sexier then a girl that can dance. That song only lasted about 30 seconds ( you know how DJ's are). My wing was freak dancing the shit out of his girl. I thought, "what the hell" and took her hand, spun her around and had her grind her ass on me. ( This is actually the standard of dancing in my age range). After dancing a while, I wanted to move around and get some rapport from her so we wouldn't get bored of each other. Told her, "let's go outside, it's hot as tits in here". She agreed. I was thinking about taking her by the hand, but I didn't end up doing it. Luckily though, while we were squeezing through the crowd, I showed her i could be protective by moving ppl out of the way politely, and holding the small of her back keeping her close. When we got outside, I could see her face more clearly. Guys this girl was easily a 9. Very exotic looking and seductive, but there was innocence in her hazel eyes. I asked in a silly way if she was Chinese. She was born in Argentina and just graduated High School (her body was quite developed for being so young, but honestly I wasn't surprised about her age).
The rest was pretty boring. I teased her about her high school because it was in my old high school district. We comfort talked, I asked her about her goals and aspirations with light teases here and there (it seems like young girls love the fun vibe). Pulled her back on the dance floor, more seductive dancing. When it was time to leave, my wing and I tried to get the girls to go back w/ us but they came with a big group and so did we. I got her number and kissed her on the forehead, told her to pinky swear and come visit me at my school. She did. We text back and forth that night and my phone games solid from calling party lines when I was younger lol. ( I wanted to call her, but decided it might be a bad idea)
What was my mindset that night? i honestly haven't a clue. I just felt good and out of my head. It could be because I did what i love earlier that day regarding music. It could be that I felt this way all along and just needed to take action and stop BS'ing. Whatever it was, I know one thing now. If it aint broke, don't fix it.
PS. I'm moving into my place tomorrow! No more logistical porblems, yeeeaaahhh!