God. Another fucking SNAL
Ok. Another night. Another SNAL. I spent 3.5 hours with this chick. We took a cab and after she got in, she said that she wanted to go home. So the cab dropped me at my place and then left. I feel so blue balled right now. Main problem was that she felt like a slut. I did too little too late to cultivate some kind of an emotional connection. Main reason was because she was into dancing. So most of the time, I just hung around and she danced. She moved everywhere with me. She asked me to go with her if she wanted to go somewhere etc. God! Why are the frickin' PU gods against me?
This is mainly a vent. I'll update tomorrow with a good FR. I learnt a lot of things from this one.
EDIT: FR follows
I entered a wildly popular 80s night at this chill club. It was about 1030. This place always has a nice assortment of people. They are very friendly too. So long as you come off as normal and comfortable, people definitely talk to you. Perhaps that is true of all places. But in my experience, some venues seem to be more cliquey.
I spied this gorgeous girl in a purple tank top with a low neckline tantalizing me with her perky breasts. Her locks were platinum, her skin golden. In short I was totally attracted to her. Plus she had pristine logistics - she was alone. Rewind two weeks and the same girl had been there. I had spied her then too. Bombed masterfully because I tried to do high energy shit. That week, I saw her get picked up by another guy. Very chill, very mellow. In effect I knew the roadmap to seduce her. In a conventional sense, it is quite hard with this girl, because she doesn't give much in terms of reactions. But she will stay with you, providing implicit consent to the seduction.
I opened her in a very chill fashion on the dance floor. She remembered, smiled and said hi. Must have been 1100. From that point on, we were together the whole time save bathroom breaks. I let her dance. I would dance facing her or turned away from her, distracted but aware of what she was doing. I noticed her drink was over, so I asked if she wanted to go get a drink. She wanted to wait. She kept dancing away. I chilled. When it came time, I spied her starting to move to get a drink. I asked her if she wanted to get a drink and she followed. We got drinks. She offered money which I took. We got separated for a couple of mins. Almost on cue, she was accosted by an RSD style pickup artist. He was eliciting hardcore reactions. But she eventually left. We then walked back to the dance floor and danced some more. She left midway saying she'll be back. I said ok.
After about 5 mins I searched around for her. She had started dancing at a different floor. Now this was another make or break moment. Do I have the courage to disregard this and continue believing she is interested or should I start gaming other chicks. I was totally tempted to try the latter option, but decided to see this through. Reopen. She says hi. Dance a bit. Get another drink. Start to get a bit more aggressive with the kino but back off at the sign of tension. She wants to go the bathroom at 1230. I am always wary of this. One, because even after all this, I'm afraid the girl will ditch me. Two, I'm afraid a player will come down and swoop on her outside the bathroom like I've done in the past.
Neither happened and she returned. Tried to escalate. But nothing much happened. At around 130, she started glancing at her watch. I asked if she wanted to get out. She said yes. We ended up passing through the other room and she wanted to dance. I didn't realize, but this was the clue that we didn't have enough comfort. She was stalling. At around 145, I ask if she wants to bounce. She refuses. Second sign missed. At 200, she starts looking at her watch. So I suggest we bounce. She looks hesitant. Asks if I have to work the next day. I say yes. But at 1030. She says that's still pretty early. Third sign missed. She goes to get her coat, but doesn't ask me to go along. Fourth sign missed. I follow her regardless to make sure some player doesn't grab her.
We get out. She walks away from me to hail a cab. But looks back to make sure I'm there. We get into the cab and the fucking driver asks "is it going to be one stop or two stops". Fucking bitch. How about you shut up and drive? She jumps on the chance to say two stops.
I ask her if she just wants to go to her place instead. Wrong move. She says she is not that kind of girl. I tell her "there is no that kind of girl. I don't think like that. Listen I don't think of u that way". She says sarcastically, "I'm sure u don't". I tell her, "look Im ok either way". She said, "you are not against it". I said, "of course I'm not against it. You are a gorgeous girl. As much as I would like, ultimately it is ur choice. Regardless of what happens or doesn't I had fun". I then completely switched topics to completely normal stuff. I made fun of how the kids would cal her miss. Xyz. She was starting to feel better. She started saying things like ur place is really close.
Two things were against me. The cab driver being present didn't allow us to have a frank and open convo. Otherwise I swear i would have made her feel comfortable. The second was time. I should have asked him to drop her off first as she lives farther. But I wasn't thinking clearly. Before I got off I suggested again a couple of times that it will be fun. No dice. Cool I always have my hand.
In other news, I could have sworn one girl literally eye coded to me that she was ready to leave. I hadn't talked to her at all. Although I did smile a couple of times when I saw her. I think when you get out of ur head, u notice things that were list in the mountain of tension that overloads ur mind.
Positives:
1) got out of the house despite not feeling it.
2) was chill and mostly present
3) did not give up until the end
Learnings:
1) sometimes girls wont give any signs. Believe they are interested and continue gaming.
2) be more astute to subtle signals like checking the time, stalling etc.
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(This post was last modified: 08-13-2011 04:14 AM by shadow.)
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