I actually e-mailed this to Mark, but I forgot there was a forum here so I figured I'd get your guys' opinion on this.

So I met this girl through a mutual friend last weekend. I text her twice throughout the week and she agrees to come over my frat house last night. We all go out to the bars, and at the last bar it's just me and her two friends. It's great! It's almost as if her friends are reverse cockblocking me. They would make excuses to let us sit alone and talk, or alone to dance on the dance floor lol. We grab some pizza after the bar and walk back to her friends apartment. Her friends walk like 30 feet in front of us to give us some space. We're talking holding hands the whole way. I ask her to hang out this week, she says yes, awesome. We get back to the apartment watch TV for a bit and the girls want to go to bed so I leave. I texted her this afternoon, no response. I figure, maybe she missed it, so I called her after work. No answer, and she hasn't responded at all.

I've realized two things today from what I did the other night. One, you may be thinking "Dude! You totally should have made a move!" Well that could be the case, I didn't even kiss her. However, I talked to her friend that night and she has only ever had one boyfriend! She is really shy and I highly doubt she has had a one night stand, so I didn't want to move to fast (probably a big mistake). Two, I'm getting a little needy trying to contact her too much. I also was touching her a lot last night and a lot of gurus say don't touch just to touch, touch with a purpose.

I really like this girl and maybe that's why I'm getting so needy. She's a cute, innocent girl, that could be total gf material.

And to give you an idea of what I believe I'm experiencing read this article.
http://www.girlschase.com/content/escalation-windows The reader who asked that question was me 8 months ago haha. I really hope this is not the same situation.

I'd appreciate any feedback.

I think you left out the most important details - the connection you made with her while you were with her. Did you really make a personal and emotional connection with this person? Physical escalation is part of the equation but if you say she's shy and pretty inexperienced its probably just as important that you make an emotional connection with her as well.

Eitherway, if she's not responding, I don't think there's much you can do about it. For whatever reason, she's not interested. You can keep her in the rolodex and see if things changes but it would behoove you to lessen your investment and move on.

(08-08-2011 03:11 AM)Trickster Wrote:  I think you left out the most important details - the connection you made with her while you were with her. Did you really make a personal and emotional connection with this person? Physical escalation is part of the equation but if you say she's shy and pretty inexperienced its probably just as important that you make an emotional connection with her as well.

Eitherway, if she's not responding, I don't think there's much you can do about it. For whatever reason, she's not interested. You can keep her in the rolodex and see if things changes but it would behoove you to lessen your investment and move on.

No, no I didn't at all. I didn't even flirt with her! The hell is wrong with me. I already knew from the friend that kinda set me up with her that she was into me. I just fucking held hands with her and danced with her the whole night. Yeah we made some small talk but nothing major. Damn, I got some major work to do...

Dude, stop obsessing about this girl so much. That is the best advice I can give you. The more you obsess, the more you are going to push her away. If she stops responding, put her in mass text zone and text her whenever you have anything going on. Women are fickle. Don't get sucked into their BS. I don't mean that in a misogynistic way. Next time you see her, try to build a real emotional connection.

you're freaking out too much. You shouldn't contact her twice in one day because she didnt get back to you. What did you text with?

Also, yeah, you probably should have made a bit more of a move. Even if she is experienced, a kiss would not have been bad. That does not leap out as much as contacting her too much. That said, it hasnt been that long. Has she gotten back to you?

She probably isn't interested, otherwise she wouldn't flake you and not pick up the phone.

Just forget her and move on. In the end, she probably wasn't that special (you hardly know her according to your post) and probably a girl like 100s others at your college.