One of my big sticking points is how I deal with rejection. Not immediate rejection - getting blown out on my opener or in the initial phases of an interaction doesn't really bother me much. What really bothers me is when I get rejected after a date with a girl - I'll brood for days, sometimes weeks (especially if I like the girl) and it'll be an impediment to me going out and trying again.

I know that the way I feel is a symptom of why I don't do well on my dates - obviously I'm wired to be outcome dependent, and therefore neediness invariably comes out during my dates. I'm interested in any tips on how to break this outcome dependence and put a handle on rejection. Have any of you experienced this and how did you deal with it?

Well, whenever I go on dates, I'm only there to have fun. If I'm not enjoying myself or I see she's getting bored, I just leave and find something else to do.

Your date thing is just a sticking point, like any other. You are working on it, taking productive action. You are presently struggling with dates but it won't always be like that. You struggled with approaching and got better, you can do this as well.

The second you start to value her opinion and views of you over your own you've lost. Girls can sense neediness from a mile away and it's probably the most unattractive trait a guy can have.