Great stuff all throughout this website man. I stumbled onto it by accident and have since read every article and check it daily. I agree with a lot of the things you say and feel like your right in my age range compared to others in the community. Anyway keep it up.

My first question is recently I dealt with a demanding women who I met on a friday and ended up getting her home to spend the night but the next night I ran into her again at another party (bad luck) and she was playful but started to almost demand I take her on a "real" date. I playfully told her that I don't like to be told what to do. Started calling her miss demanding and just playful cocky teasing like I generally do. She laughed backed off and moved on to another subject but later that evening I could tell we had almost lost the same sort of connection. I left to go socialize around the party and when I came back to talk to her it felt different. She ended up basically ignoring me the rest of the night.

My question to you is in my experience with any girl there comes a time where there is a break in the conversation or one of you goes to the bathroom for example. When you return the vibe can sometimes feel different. How do you go about recapturing that same sexy, flirtatious vibe after a somewhat long break in the interaction?

In this situation she evidently lost interest because of something I did (maybe I was pushing too hard and not pulling enough) and basically ignored me the rest of that night and now is ignoring me when I try and contact her. All of this after I had her begging me to take her on a date. Is there such a thing as pushing too hard? (my guess it depends on the women involved)

Thanks

I think you're asking the wrong question. That change in the vibe is always going to happen for different reasons, so you have to take it on a case-by-case basis.

I can tell you with certainty though what happened with this girl. Her quips about a "real date" weren't really about the logistics of an actual date or whatever. It was basically her saying, "I feel kind of slutty, and I need to be reassured that you actually like me and that you're a decent guy." Listen to the emotions, not the words.

So you come back with jokes and give her a hard time, and you didn't affirm that at all, which is why she went cold.

What I would have done? I would have said, "Sure, we'll have a candlelight dinner and blah, blah, blah..." I wouldn't have brushed it aside. I'd have agreed to it. You don't even necessarily have to do it, what you're doing is just affirming, "It's cool, you're actually a cool girl, you're not a slut." That's all.

Emotions, not words. The words could be anything. It's the emotions you have to pay attention to.

Well said... I agree 100%. Sometimes I find myself focusing on presenting that cool, I don't care attitude so much I lose track of what I'm actually trying to do. Actually meet cool women to spend time with. I'm almost overcompensating for all those years of being such "nice" guy.