RE: Phone number follow-up
"Phone game" is something I keep on coming back to.
Everyone seems to have a different theory to it.
However one thing that I do think is bullshit to a large extent is the whole idea that 'chicks love playing games' and that 'all of them do'. My personal belief is this - if a girl is attracted to you, you will find out pretty quickly. If she responds to your texts, and answers your calls, and even sends you texts and calls out of the blue, then your in.
I mean, put it this way, is a girl going to play cat and mouse and not reply to texts and calls if your a Hollywood actor/celebrity? Probably unlikely. Because she would care a lot, and be very attracted to you.
Take the same logic and apply it to measure a girls interest when you are texting/calling etc. If she isn't taking the time to respond to your messages, or answer your calls, let alone text you/call you out of the blue, then the answer is, she probably doesn't care that much, and shes probably not that attracted to you.
But if she is supposedly 'playing games' and taking ages to respond, or not responding to texts, and not answering calls, then shes not interested. Its as simple as that. As mark said there are exceptions but its not worth the time to analyze.
Personally, if its a really hot girl, and I get the feeling she isn't too interested, then I may send one more text/call after I have made a call/text which she hasn't responded to, just in case. And by then, if she doesn't reply/respond, time to move on.
A lot of us obviously over analyse the texting/calling stage. I think a part of is is that we try and rationalize rejection. We say 'oh shes probably playing games' or 'shes playing hard to get'. When ultimately the likelyhood is that she really isn't. I mean, it just goes against human logic. Why would you play hard to get and pretend to show a lack of interest in someone you really liked?
If I'm interested in a girl, if I really have the hots for her, and say she texts me, and I have no credit, I'll still try and get back to her, I'll borrow my friends phone or something.
And girls that have liked me will do that sort of thing too.
I mean excuses from a girl like 'oh sorry I havent been in touch, Ive been so busy' Bullshit. It takes 30 seconds to right a text. The truth is, you didnt care enough. 'Or sorry I had no credit"(and its been like over a few days) Bullshit. If someone really likes you, they will find a way to contact you. And countless other excuses, but those are generally the main ones.
I'll make the effort to respond to her if I like her, and vice versa. And that what it comes down to, making the effort. Has that person made an effort to respond to you and contact you ?
(This post was last modified: 08-14-2011 10:03 PM by 007.)