I've been practicing Social Circle game for some time and I think its cons outnumbered its pros

Pros:

• You see the girl regularly
  

• It's easier for HER to trust you
  

• She's already part of you social circle so, probably her friends are your friends too
  

• USUALLY people engage in relationships or even get married with other people close to them.
  

Cons:

• She KNOWS you are gonna be there so, she can take her time to think about it and play games. Whereas in cold approach this doesn't happen, if she likes you she must be decisive to go out on dates with you, otherwise you are gonna forget about her and move on.
  

• Her friends can try to cock block you even though they are your friends too.
  

• In my own experience you have to invest A LOT of time and effort to get the girl out on dates BECAUSE she knows you are gonna be there so there's no rush.
  

• If the interaction goes wrong you could face a lot of awkard moments with her and the rest of the group
  

• OF COURSE you can't flirt with other girls in the same social circle, or even flirt with other girls that her friends know. You are gonna be very limited.
  

• Why bother? if there are so many other girls out there and we can game them as well. I thnik cold approach forces the girl to take action.
  

I think I'm not gonna practice social circle game anymore, UNLESS I find a very special girl in it.

It sounds like the issue is that you are not making a clear move the first time you meet these girls through your social circle. With cold approach, you make your intent clear early on, so none of these issues arise. If you make your interest clear when you first meet these girls, and make a move (either for a date or actually physically escalate) at that first meeting, you are good.

Depends on the social circle. If it's one in which everyone fucks around a lot, the friends will be no problem, and it's great.

Where do you guys find these huge social circles of hot girls?

through friends, especially female friends I am not attracted to, friends of friends, friends girlfriends, etc.

I've never seen such a thing since high school.

So what's the story with your social circle? Is it just a bunch of dudes who don't get girlfriends?

The main thing about Social Circle game is that you want to make it work for you.

Don't expect to (normally) hook up with girls you see everyday. The easiest girls to hook up with are the ones at the periphery of your social circle the friend of a friend - or the friend of one of your friends that is in town for the weekend, etc. Not the ones in the center - the ones you see everyday, your best ladyfriends etc - not gonna happen and not worth the effort.

Paradoxically, the way I made social circle work for me was going about my own business cold-approaching and putting most of the legwork into girls outside my social circle - in other words, working to be an attractive guy independent of them. Then I'd just flirt and be cool and flirty and open with the girls in my own circle, and they pass whatever friend they have visiting or on the rebound to me.

Basically, put more of your effort into cold-approaching and just be a cool guy to your ladyfriends. Social circle game will automatically provide you with "free-passes" in the form of friends of your friends.

What not to do is make Social Circle your first option. Even when my game was sharp, my success rate was abysmally low when I tried girls I saw everyday, and they took the most investment on my part. Speaking from experience, the above option is smarter in the short and long term, and saves a ton of stress.

Oh, and the girls on the periphery don't necessarily need maintenance - no need for maintenance texts, meeting up once a week or whatever. If you are just still cool with the friend who hooked you up (that should be female), they will do all the legwork for you.

If the periphery girl needs you, she'll come back to you when you're in town, she's in town, she's doesn't have a guy etc.

(07-08-2011 06:27 AM)Jon Wrote:  So what's the story with your social circle? Is it just a bunch of dudes who don't get girlfriends?

You have to remember Jon, I'm sure that for a lot of these guys, 'social circle' means the guys they play Warcraft with ..