(07-06-2011 08:32 AM)Philip Wrote:  I actually meant that you can be both social and seductive with the same girl on the same night. If you spend a few hours with a girl you can't be seductive all the time. You switch it up with being laid back and social and teasing. The push/pull idea.

I actually don't think being social and teasing is really all that necessary with the girl all of the time. I'm not sure if i want to say it's usually unnecessary or only sometimes unnecessary, I usually do a fair amount of talking but that's my personality, and really what is most natural and comfortable. I don't tease girls all that much. Of the 3 girls I hooked up with in June, I think I only really teased one of them before hooking up, and that wasn't even very much.

(07-06-2011 08:35 AM)shadow Wrote:  That is true too. I see it as helping the girl relax a bit from the intensity of the seductive vibe.

But don't you want to put the pressure on the girl so that it will build a lot of sexual tension between you two which will eventually lead to sex?

Yes, but you have to calibrate to the girl. For example, you can put pressure on the girl by tearing off her clothes. But you don't. Why? Because this is seduction. And by its nature, seduction involves some amount of comfort too. There is sexual tension, yet she has to be comfortable enough to want to have sex with you.