Man with a Plan
Joined: Apr 2011
RE: Being Indifferent
Of course you're going to care about whether a woman wants to spend time with you, otherwise why would you be interested in her? And it's going to change from woman to woman, depending on how attracted to her you are.
What you're looking for is to find the line between wanting to go on a date with a woman, and spending all your time thinking about it and how you can make it happen.
Indifference isn't quite the term I'd use. I'd say a healthy detachment is more of what you're looking for. And that's something that's best achieved by not directly trying to achieve it. Zen.
The best time to do this is when you don't have a woman you're currently keenly interested in. In that time, focus on working hard at your job, spending quality time with your friends, and enjoying your hobbies, or however else you think your time is best spent. Then when a woman who you do like comes along, keep living your life as before, and don't allow thinking about her to affect the effort and time you put into those aforementioned things. Sooner or later you'll be able to meet up, and then you can make the time for her.
If I could describe having a healthy detachment simply, I would say that it is being interested and attracted to a woman without having her detrimentally affect the quality of the time spent in the rest of your life.
|06-17-2011 03:50 AM