Hey guys,

i don´t know if you have ever heard something like this, but my approach anxiety drives me crazy. sometimes i think i am the guy with the worst approach anxiety ever. When i am in a club i see this smoking hot girls, the firsts, the second, the third,........ and with every girl i see and don´t approach my state goes down and down.. and at the end i am so sad and in my head, that i don´t know what´s wrong at the moment.. and i just wann dissappear amd cry...

i also think my approach anxiety is so bad because i know pick up such a long time and i am still at the beginning. it´s shaming for me. yes i feel really shamed around other puas from the lair..

mark have you ever met someone like me? how did you help him?

Sounds like typical approach anxiety. I'm still trying to find a way to overcome mine. Sometimes it seems like I can talk with anyone, and other times it's so bad I find myself not approaching at all. I know this isn't very helpful but just try to get used to it.

Not that special, most people on this forum probably have or had the same problem.

Like everywhere else in life, start with small challenges and get improve from there on. Of course, you will fail as a beginner when you try to pick up a super hot girl. How do you learn to run a marathon? Start small and increase your standards.

Dude, *I* was the same way... I had awful AA. It took me over three months of going out to be able to approach on my own.

How do you fix it? APPROACH! Start simple, but approach.

Most of us can relate to you dude. I'm supremely satisfied with every other area of my 'game' except cold approaching. Especially in clubs. But like the guys have said - the only way to get over it is by doing it. It might be like stuffing your face through a cheese grater at first, but eventually you'll desensitise yourself and AA will be a thing of the past.

wow i find it interesting who everybody says, that what i am feeling is nothing special!
I haven´t thought so.. i thougt i am the only one who is a long time in the community and don´t get anywhere.

Mark recommended to start small so i will do it. and i will defenitly try the g3 program as soon as i have the money for it.. i think it´s about in 1-2 weeks..

untill i can effort it i would have some selfmade exercises from you for the next 10 days
but really easy exercises first pls

For me, I'm crazy good at situational approaches, but terrible at all other kinds... I like to have an "excuse" to approach. Something to work on...

(06-11-2011 10:56 AM)B101 Wrote:  wow i find it interesting who everybody says, that what i am feeling is nothing special!
I haven´t thought so.. i thougt i am the only one who is a long time in the community and don´t get anywhere.

Mark recommended to start small so i will do it. and i will defenitly try the g3 program as soon as i have the money for it.. i think it´s about in 1-2 weeks..

untill i can effort it i would have some selfmade exercises from you for the next 10 days
but really easy exercises first pls

Here are your excercises
http://www.practicalpickup.com/improving-quickly

(06-14-2011 03:04 AM)machiavelli Wrote:  For me, I'm crazy good at situational approaches, but terrible at all other kinds... I like to have an "excuse" to approach. Something to work on...

Yeah same here. If I find the smallest "legitimate" reason to approach, like having an honest question, it is easy. But if I have to make something up, let's say an opinion opener, and I know I don't actually care about the opinion, I get a guilty conscience and terrible AA.

I guess the best strategy for me would be the "Hi! I just saw you, you seem nice, I want to get to know you" one. But I don't like/am afraid of putting me up for rejection like that.

(06-19-2011 03:07 AM)FromAFCtoidontknow Wrote:  

(06-14-2011 03:04 AM)machiavelli Wrote:  For me, I'm crazy good at situational approaches, but terrible at all other kinds... I like to have an "excuse" to approach. Something to work on...

Yeah same here. If I find the smallest "legitimate" reason to approach, like having an honest question, it is easy. But if I have to make something up, let's say an opinion opener, and I know I don't actually care about the opinion, I get a guilty conscience and terrible AA.

I guess the best strategy for me would be the "Hi! I just saw you, you seem nice, I want to get to know you" one. But I don't like/am afraid of putting me up for rejection like that.

I am exactly the same.