This is my first post here. I've been in 'The Game' for just over a year now and have been seeing decent results for some time. I've been a little bit lax about it lately, as I've had some other things in my life keeping me busy. I'm trying to get the ball rolling again, and as a part of that I'm trying to write field reports more regularly. I use a lot of nomenclature from "The Game" because it's well understood in the community and convenient. This all happened recently:

I almost had 3 girls in 3 night last week.

The first was on Tuesday, HBTwenty (<-not necessarily a reference to age or looks). I met her a couple weeks ago while out with some other friends. There was some apparent chemistry then, but due to logistics and some spectacular CB'ing by her friend, nothing was able to happen. She Facebooked me last week, and I messaged her suggesting we hang out. I picked her up and took her to a spot I like to go a lot on first dates because there's generally have a quite atmosphere, a couch, and a pool table/darts.

Unfortunately, the couch was taken, so we grabbed a table and had some appetizers because we were both hungry. I don't remember much of the details of the conversation, but it was very alive and positive. There were a lot of suggestive jokes that made the mood very sexual. After finishing the food, I suggest we get up to play pool. She warns me she's horrible at pool, and I tell her I'm probably worse, which she laughs about. I also suggest we wager something on the game. I pretend to think about it, but I know I'm going to wager a round of "Truth or Dare," as that usually goes over well with girls in such games. She likes the idea, and we play.

The place also conveniently has only one pool cue, and this also gives a good opportunity to touch, flirt, etc in between shots. There's lots of this, and she's taking it well. Eventually, after she makes a particularly bad shot after one of my particularly bad shots, I use the opportunity to tease her and pull in her in for the kiss. She goes for it and we have a solid make out. I continued to push the sexual escalation, and she continues to respond well. I win the first game, and she choose "Truth" as per the wager earlier. I ask where the craziest place she's ever had sex was (I usually go with this, or with what her most interesting sexual fantasy is). She says in a car, but I could tell she was a bit self-conscious of it. I told a couple of stories of some crazy experiences I've had with such things, and that seemed to make her feel a bit more comfortable about it. We play one more pool game, continued to flirt, etc. I lost that one, so I also chose "Truth," and she asked what I had planned post graduation. I explained what I was looking for and some of the job prospects that have come along and what I see for myself later in life. I kept pretty honest to the fact to that a lot of that is pretty uncertain at the moment, and she seemed to find what I said attractive.

I tell her she should come home with me and we can play with the Xbox Kinect I have. She agrees and we talk about some of the games for it. In any case, she comes over, I make her a drink, and all we manage to do is make a mess of the brand-new sheets I had just put on my bed.

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Girl #2 was HBTomboy. No crazy story. She's someone I like and have been seeing for awhile.

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I almost made #3 the next night about with Kid Joe and two others. We were hanging out at Drink in DT Minneapolis, and I notice a very attractive dark-haired girl (HBNative) check me out from a table behind the dance floor. I hesitated a bit because the set did not seem very approachable, but eventually I got my balls up and went for it. I opened direct with "You're gorgeous." The target immediately gave me a big smile, shook my hand, and she and her friend introduced themselves. We start bantering about all kinds of stuff. It's playful and fun, and we're talking about stuff like astrology and witchcraft, which I have some interesting thoughts and stories about. A lot of the conversation was a blur to me, but we were flirting heavy and talking face-to-face very close, so the tension was building fast.

Her friend had gone off to dance with someone else she apparently knew, leaving us alone for a bit, but at some point she came back and grabbed my shoulder and whispered to me that I need to buy the girl a drink. I wasn't sure what to do with that, but in any case when I turned back at HBNative, she immediately asked what that was about. I joked with her at first saying that her friend said I was the coolest guy ever, which she obviously knew was not true. I joked, "Of course not, she'd have been hopelessly wrong about that anyway," with a big smile. HBNative laughs, and I tell her truthfully that her friend suggested I buy her a drink.

She tells me I don't have to do that, but thinking I could have fun with this, I ask if she's ever had an Adios Motherfucker. She has no idea what that is, so I tell her that I'll grab one for us to share. She says she has to stay by the bags, but pinky-swears to stay while I get the drink. I grabbed her for the kiss at that point, which turned into a very solid make-out. I felt good about getting the drink at this point. I bring it back and kiss her again. Things are feeling very sexual at this point, so I decide to tell her that I'm taking her home tonight.

"Maybe" is her response with a mischievous tone and grin. I figure I'm in at this point, but just to play I decided to use a routine with a joke about having a shrinking machine at my house and we're going to play around with it, etc. She did not like this, and I could tell immediately that with the routine I had showed that I was nervous with the whole idea of taking her home. The set blew completely. She pulled her friend back over and they started talking about calling all these other guys in front and all that. Deciding that this was sunk, I left the set after a while.

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Feedback would be appreciated. I was really happy with the week overall, and my energy was spot on for almost everything those nights. I felt really good about the whole adventure. The experience with HBNative shows that I've obviously still got some things to work on with my mentality and such, but it was good in that I proved to myself that I've got what it takes to make these sets go far.

Cheers!

-TBH

"so I decide to tell her that I'm taking her home tonight."
If a guy TOLD me that he was "taking me home for the night" my response to him would be a whole lot more than "maybe." I can only speak for myself, but I definitely don't react well to being told what to do, So I am thinking this is probably where things starting going down hill. Plus, she was with her friends which also hinders the situation. I think had you not attempted to go in for the kill that night and asked for her number and set up a date, then you probably would have gotten this girl in bed. Not to say bar/club hookups don't happen, because they do, but I think if you just be a little bit patient then it will up your chances. This is all obvious by comparing circumstance number one and two. In number one, you took the girl on the date, removed the friends from the equation, you at least disguised your motives for getting her back to your house (although believe me, she knew all along you guys were not going to play xbox) instead of outright telling her she was your booty for the night.
So, my suggestion for getting girls back to your house would be to continue with the disguise method. Telling her straight up is rude and annoyingly cocky. Asking is a bad idea too because girls know that having sex on date one or with a random at a bar is well, not entirely class, so she is most likely not going to say yes, even if she really wants to because you are leaving it up to her and allowing opportunity for her conscious to kick-in or a retort telling you "not tonight but maybe another time?"

Oh and PS -I fucking HATE it when a guy I am randomly talking to at a bar/lounge starts making out with me, even if I think he is attractive, even if I am having a nice conversation and a fun time. Most of my girlfriends feel the same way. We kiss back because our options are limited, but it makes me very uncomfortable. Obviously I am only one person, I'm sure there a plenty of girls out there who do enjoy a good PDA session.

@ youregettingitwrong - I agree with you for the most part, but it would depend on the circumstances. Certainly there are times when I have been at a bar with a girl I just met and I got a strong sense that she was gunning for me to take her home that night. In that case, there was not much need for pretext. In fact, I have once had a girl ask me, before I said anything, whether I lived close by or we should go to her place. In another case, I basically said "let's go, we're going to my place." However, at that point, she was sending pretty obvious signals she was down. However, really, that's a limited exception and I agree that you are right.

Regarding making out with girls at a bar - I don't see the point of it either, plenty of time after we leave. That said, sometimes girls really do want to make out at the bar, and I kinda feel like the better move is to go for it, rather than shoot her down, if I am interested.

(06-07-2011 07:22 AM)Jon Wrote:  @ youregettingitwrong - I agree with you for the most part, but it would depend on the circumstances. Certainly there are times when I have been at a bar with a girl I just met and I got a strong sense that she was gunning for me to take her home that night. In that case, there was not much need for pretext. In fact, I have once had a girl ask me, before I said anything, whether I lived close by or we should go to her place. In another case, I basically said "let's go, we're going to my place." However, at that point, she was sending pretty obvious signals she was down. However, really, that's a limited exception and I agree that you are right.

Regarding making out with girls at a bar - I don't see the point of it either, plenty of time after we leave. That said, sometimes girls really do want to make out at the bar, and I kinda feel like the better move is to go for it, rather than shoot her down, if I am interested.

Interesting feedback. I always try and keep the vibe pretty sexual when I tell a girl to come home with me anyway; I don't generally try to hide my intentions. Interesting thought about not making it a command. I usually try to keep an air of mischief to it when I say, so as to not be too overbearing, but I'll play with it... At bars especially, I feel like leaving it to a second date is pretty high risk, since even for very positive interactions the numbers I get at bars don't usually play out.

I usually will try and go for a make out if I think the girl is looking for it, and in this case I think she was, but I can also think of a lot of times where it wasn't helpful.

Great ideas!

Actually, I want to slightly amend my response. If you say "I'm taking you home" and she says maybe in a flirty way, the move is to hold eye contact and shut the fuck up. She is amping up the sexual tension like crazy there. It sounds like you are right, the routine made you seem nervous. From what you said, it sounds like she did like what you did with commanding her, but was enjoying pushing back against you. I am not a huge fan of the sort of goofy humorous roleplay routines at all, but I think they can be really problematic AFTER you know the girl is into you.