(06-12-2011 02:14 AM)cobrastyle Wrote:  Yeah I know what you have in mind asking those questions, but I'm quite athletic, go out with good friends, pay attention to how I look etc. But it's like all these things get me just on par with other guys. When I go out I can see most guys well groomed, dressed well etc.

So yeah, maybe the answer is to 'fix my Game', and I just need more experience. Building emotional connection is a good idea, but you need a solid amount of 'instant attraction' to actually get that far in an interaction.

When you dress well, are somewhat in shape and have the balls to approach girls, you are already ahead of 80%+ of the crowd. The vast majority of guys doesn't have many ONS and sexual interactions (The average is about 10 sexual partners in their whole life) and that's because they don't feel the need to or don't have the balls to approach girls.

(06-07-2011 06:26 PM)Mark Wrote:  That's the thing about emotional connection and vulnerability... it can't be faked. She's not connecting to the story, she's connecting to your emotion behind the story.

This is true and makes it a bigger risk for the guy as well. If you put real emotion and connection on the table and things "go bad", it can be really painful. Higher risk, higher reward, of course.