Does any woman communicate directly?
I've been in the community for about 4 years and in the different interactions that I've had with women almost NONE of them communicate directly, they are always dropping hints, insinuating something, etc, etc. In the beginning I found it really exciting to read women, to know what the hell they were really trying to communicate. Nowadays I find it annoying, boring, tiring. Don'g get me wrong guys I don't expect a woman to say to me: Let's gonna fuck! I think that's never gonna happen. But I've lost some opportunities of having fun with a woman (going out for drinks, lunch, having sex, etc) because they are ALWAYS communicating indirectly or even worse some women appear OUT OF NOWHERE and they expect you to modify YOUR PLANS just because she wants to do something with you without let you know in advance. I mean, I appreciate and like spontaneity but at least if she's gonna be spontaneous communicate directly what the hell you want us to do. For example:
-HBCoworker: Leo, what are we gonna do tonight?
-Leo: IDK about you, but I'm leaving.
-HBCoworker: Do you like my closing clothes? (she changed her uniform for informal clothes to go out)
-Leo: What? Oh, yeah!
-HBCoworker: Are you gonna help me close the bar tonight? I'll pay you if you want.
-Leo: No, no thanks. I have plans, I want to enjoy my Sat. night.
Why she didn't ask me: Leo, would you like to get some drinks with me and the other guys after work? Or whatever other thing she wanted to do. Why so much pain to communicate a simple fucking idea? I'm getting tired of having to decypher hieroglyphics all the time. Do women think that we can be tired, distracted, with a head ache, have had a difficult day, etc. before communicating in this way? Sometimes I'm thinking about my own problems and a woman drops me a hint and she expects me to be READY for the hint and interpret it the right way. I used to blame myself when I lost the opportunity to be together with a woman because I wasn't ready to read the hint but nowadays I say to myself: She doesn't know how to communicate, she needs a lot of work to do, whatever! There are more women out there and not all of them communicate such in an indirect way. For example:
-HBRomanian (after 15 min. of interaction): Call me to make sure you got my number correctly.
-Leo: Ok, did you get it?
-HBRomanian: Yeah I did. Call me some day to get together.
-Leo: Sure, I will, don't worry about it.
This interaction happened on last thursday night and we are SUPPOSED to get together next Monday night.
I texted her on Thursday night after I left the Club: HBRomanian it was nice to meet you.
-HBRomanian (On Friday morning): It was nice to meet you too Leo. Are you in Facebook?
After about 6 texts messages exchanged between each other I asked for the date on Monday night.
-HBRomanian: Sounds good, see you on Monday night then.
I hope this is not a case of: too good to be true. But I really enjoyed the interaction with HBRomanian, no BS, no indirect communication, no misinterpretation. God, it felt so good! While the interaction with HBCoworker was so unclear, confusing, BORING. Why she can't say something directly, or at least not in such a complicated way. I think that a lot of women make a HUGE mistake communicating indirectly, it's a horrible way to communicate ideas and sometimes they even expect from us to read their minds, yeah right!
No more Mr. nice guy.
(This post was last modified: 05-23-2011 01:35 AM by Leo.)