Buproprion (welbutrin) is one of those wonder drugs of sorts. It works differently than most anti-depressants, in that it's effects are mostly due to inhibiting dopamine and norepinephrine reuptake, as opposed to serotonin like most anti-depressants.

Not only does Welbutrin not seem to have sexual side effects, many patients report feeling "increased energy" throughout the day from it's use. Its also prescribed as an effective smoking cessation aid since it can compete for the nicotinic receptors in the brain.

the only danger is that it can lower the seizure threshold, so you should avoid it if you're prone to epilepsy in anyway. obviously, consult a doctor.

i appreciate all the replies, some of which were very helpful. I finally had a chance to sit down and talk to her this past weekend, and unfortunately not a whole lot of good came out of it. There were a lot of underlying issues as to why she was not attracted to me as much anymore, and they need to be sorted out.

Long story short, i ended things for now, but i am still open to working things out. She essentially told me that she liked us being in a relationship, and being together but for some reason she had been looking at it too much like a friendship since we were only spending time at her parents house/with her friends and had not really behaved like a couple in any other way. By ending things, i explained to her that I'm not her friend but her boyfriend, and that i thought she needed to realize what it felt like if that was truly all our relationship represented.

In the meantime, she is going to consult a doctor about the problems she's been having since she started taking the medication, and after a week or two of cutting off contact with one another we're probably going to give it another shot.

Any other ideas from here? Obviously any advice is welcome, and much appreciated.

I am not a fan of these "breaks" in a relationsship. Seeing less for some time (if you had an argument) might be fine, but breaking off the contact for 2 weeks after realizing, that you have some serious issues is not a good idea imo.

You´re a couple, so you should solve your problems together, this will improve your relationsship a lot. If she has issues and needs to consult a doctor, she definetly could need your help now.

Sometimes relationships fizzle out. But the her seeing you as a friend more than a boyfriend explains the lack of sex drive and I'd say is far more likely the culprit than the anti-depressants (although they could be related).

It's hard to know if this is a natural incompatibility that's sprung up, or if it's due to unattractive behavior of yours within the relationship (needy, complacent, whatever). It could be a bit of both. But this situation isn't uncommon -- in fact, many relationships fall apart slowly and amicably in this way.

Well, one point I haven't seen mentioned: Talking about sex as "a problem to solve" in a relationship usually makes it worse. Of course it's good to talk about some things every once in a while, but I have the feeling that if one needs to bring up the topic of "hey we're not having sex anymore, and I like it so much?!!", probably the sex - if you get any - will be guilt sex and well, that usually sucks.

You could try something: forget about sex for a while. Yeah I know .... haha.. .but really, keeping the pressure off her sometimes helps a lot. But don't mention it, just do it. Like for example just taking her out to the movies or whatever and you get her home and say goodbye and that's it, no drama, nothing. At least in MY experience, you end up with your girl wondering "why the heck he's not horny - as usual - anymore?!?!?!" And then she complains about the lack of sex. Ha! ...

Of course, it could backfire and just end the relationship. But it's something to think about

Sorry but lol at the amount of people that had viewed this thread compared to others with the same posts..