lol @Frozen Flame
@Davey: I kinda have to agree with Extropy. I wouldn´t describe it as "following 2000 year old contradictory texts", for me it is whether you act out of your emotions with a "fuck it!" attitude (#When keepin´it real goes wrong) or if you use your head and think about whether the consequences are worth it or not.
I don´t know what happened at the family party or at your work, so I cannot say whether you had a good reason or not. But for me there must be a very very big reason to start a fight at a family party (and ruining it) or at work (and risking your job).
An example: A few weeks ago I surprised my date with a predrinking on a very romantical place. It was really a roofblaster. The only bad thing about it was a big group of teenagers getting drunk. While we were holding in our arms and making out some of the teens walked by and one of them said: "What´s up nigga?" (my girl was half black, half latin). He didn´t say it to our face, but we could hear it clearly. I let it go for 2 reasons.
First, she was not offended at all. She is really not someone who takes everything racist (it was actually racist though but i will cover that in the 2nd reason) and asks you: "What do you mean with YOU PEOPLE?". In fact, after he said this, I was really mad and stared at these guys thinking about my options. She said: "Why you look that aggresssive? Forget about these drunk kids".
If this would have happened with my ex, who is African American, she would definitely have been offended and I would have get in this guys face.
Second, the boy didn´t mean it racist. In Germany by far most white people don´t have any black friends and therefore don´t really understand the meaning of the n word. Specially kids who listen to rap and hear it there all the time, think it is not a big of a deal.
Imo, this guy was just jealous cus i am making out with a superhot chick, taking her home later and he is drinking with his buddies, going to his parents house alone later and shaking the palm tree. Additionally, he just wanted to be cool in front of his friends.
So if my girl is not offended, and the boy didn´t mean it racist, why should I ruin such a beautiful moment and probably the whole night and getting in a fight with some drunk teenagers? It was really not worth it.
(05-18-2011 06:42 AM)Mark Wrote: True. I guess if it offends you enough, then no sex is worth it. I guess it just didn't offend him enough, or the sex was that much more important. Either way, take what you will.
Now that I think about it, there are a handful of things women have said in the past that were just so egregiously offensive that I couldn't stomach to be around them.
Yes, I guess it´s all come down to whether you can be happy with yourself of what you did or whether you just thought with your dick and forget about YOUR OWN values.
I might be intolerant about this one, but i really cannot understand how racism cannot be an immediate turn off (and not how JT did it and stick your tongue in her mouth right after she said it).
I mean, we all want to get to the point (some already are) where we can chose the girls by our high standards. A famous PUA should definetly be at this point. So why then take a racist, disrespectful cunt home if there are so many hot and cool chicks outside?