This is a short FR. I went out today and had three night game interactions. If you read my other thread, I went out with the express purpose of being a challenge and practising my calibration. The more I think about it, the more I feel that calibration is my major sticking point. I also understand why this is so. But that is for a different thread.

Venue: Irish bar
Time: Night

Interaction 1: Opened with "You are cute. I wanted to say hi". The girl was texting on her phone. She hardly looked up when I delivered my opener. I started body rocking immediately. Started walking away, came back with "I must say you have an interesting nose ring". (I know, wrong move). Then I started walking away and came back again with "You look Scottish". (I know, again semi-wrong move). She just started hooking at this point. But I was like, "fuck this, I am outta here".

Interaction 2: Opened a 2 set with "Hola, cuties". Was slightly higher energy than required. Did get some teases in though. Eg. "Good, you are starting to show me some intelligence. I like itttt!". Shit like that. It was going decently. At this point, I should have calibrated my energy down. But there was still attraction. I was mostly talking to girl 2 (i went in with the intention of gaming girl 1). Girl 1 was mostly texting. I made fun of her now and then and kept talking to girl 2. When there was a brief lull, they started talking amongst each other. I took the opportunity to turn away and watch TV. I then walked away entirely.

Main problem here - They were seated and I couldn't find a seat nearby

Interaction 3: Opened a seated 2 set with "What's up cuties?" punctuated with a slight bang of the table. Flew open. I talked about how I was GOD and random shit. Here, I calibrated my energy a bit better and started asking them about themselves etc. I could see sparks of attraction now and then. This set was funny though. Two guys who kinda sorta knew the girls were sitting on the adjacent table. One of the guys kept gesturing to this girl (presumably about me). I was working the set quite well. I sat down at the table. The girl that I was interested in started asking me questions.

eg.
Girl: What do you do?
Me: Guess
Girl: This is what you do
Me: What?
Girl: Pick up girls.
Me: Yeah, that's right. Except I wish it were true. I am so desperate to get laid. I haven't had sex in 27 years (btw, almost true). I heard girls hate it when you don't get laid and become all needy.
Girl: That is not true. (Man, sometimes the world is so funny. When you accept the truth, they don't want to believe you)

Anyway, there was brief lull in the convo and the adjacent guy turned to the girl I was interested in and asked them to join the guys (I didn't know this at that time). I was just letting the silence linger to see if the girls reinitiated. I was also turned to the side and watching TV. The girls did end up moving, although the girl that I was gaming seemed slightly hesistant. In retrospect, she was somewhat attracted and needed to be reassured that I liked her too. This was probably her way of testing my investment levels.

--->What would have been the optimum move here?

Interaction 2 (contd.): I went back to the previous girls. Girl 1 (the one who hadn't been responsive) immediately said, "You've already hit on us. Go find somebody else". Smells of jealousy to me. Unfortunately, I interpreted it as an IOD. I came back with, "I don't know about you. But she has a good sense of humor. I like ittt!". Her jaw dropped (+attraction). She again asked, "What?". I repeated for her kind benefit. I could see Girl 2 melting slightly (but only slightly). I couldn't handle the emotional energy and moved away casually by dancing to the song.

--->What is the optimum move here?

I don't know how to handle "negative emotions" like anger very well. I think I need to learn to work with those emotions, if I have to get good at this. Any inputs?

That's it guys. Until the next episode of Shadow's Sordid Sexcapades, keep your penis in your pants.

I think there's a middle ground between what you used to do and what you are doing now. You are going out of your way to let girls know you aren't putting them on a pedestal, and they can tell. The girls are getting a vibe that you are just trying to get in their pants. Hence one girl said you pick up chicks all the time and the other said "you already hit on us." You actually do want to be friendly with these girls you are talking to, and that's not what you are doing now.

Ironically, going out of your way to show girls you don't put them on a pedestal... is still putting them on a pedestal.

^What they said. And I've yet to figure out a way to back away with dignity. Go big or go home lol