getting really weird results -- any ideas?
So I'm sort of a beginner to game. I've mostly read the Mystery stuff, plus your blog and some of the other game blogs..
Here's a really weird pattern of results I get:
Girls with boyfriends, particularly long-distance boyfriends, LOVE ME. My personal ethics really don't permit taking advantage of it, but I've had girls way out of my usual league (like borderline 9s) with boyfriends practically be jumping into my lap. I've hooked up with a couple despite ethics, and turned down more because of ethics. But, it's like I meet a girl with a boyfriend, especially a really hot girl with a boyfriend, and I'm in.
Girls without boyfriends tend to think I'm gay. Or they flake on me. (Who knows, maybe the flakes have boyfriends too, I just lose them before I have a chance to find out.)
Mostly when I meet girls without boyfriends (the ones who think I'm gay) it's through social circle, and they're not telling me they think I'm gay (it's not that shit test you just posted about), they're telling mutual friends. I've had ridiculous situations like making out with girls at parties then have them be surprised that my friends insist I'm straight.
Most of these girls I meet who turn out to have boyfriends are indirect approach day game, no wing. I suck at night game, hate bars and clubs -- but am very comfortable in coffeeshops and the like, so I'm pretty much all day game. Also, all the bars around here are massive sausage fests.
I live in a really shitty area (one of the worst male/female ratios in the country), decent-looking but not woah (need to lose some weight), 31 mostly going for girls in their early 20's, tallish (6'0 by a hair), not lots of money (grad student), pretty charismatic, mostly female friends...
Also, for some reason, the hotter the girl, the better I do. Bizarre, I know, but true. I once had an actual model give me her number, unprompted, on a train. Then she flaked on me, of course.
But all of this -- flakes, girls who think I'm gay, and girls with boyfriends -- is all I get! Which means I get lots of numbers and random party make-outs or extended unresolved sexual tension with girls with boyfriends, but I almost never get to actual sex or even (god forbid) dating. This is really starting to piss me off.
Any bright ideas what's going on here? If I didn't know me, my best guess would be that I'm just too scared to go sexual when I'm in my social circle, but I actually have gone sexual earlier with these girls that have thought I'm gay *after* I do so. Help?
Thanks man -- this free answer thing is awesome. And I love the blog.
(This post was last modified: 04-08-2011 04:16 PM by machiavelli.)