Lack of sex is slowly making me apathetic to women. I have always appreciated and loved women. But it seems like they don't want appreciation. They seem to want a challenge. Some of my recent mental dialogue is like this, "Fuck you bitch. You want a challenge. Cool, I'll give you a challenge". Unfortunately, girls seem to respond better to that. Perhaps, it gives them a vibe that I don't need anything from them. In any case, I am going to go with the flow on this. Once I understand the nature of the game, I'll try and revert back if required.

I would tread carefully. A good state of mind beats sex any day. I've been on that road many times before. It's a scary place to be mentally. Don't think of the challenge as cockblocking; just as part of the tango. You have to learn to love it. That's what makes sex even greater. If women threw themselves at you, you'd probably dislike them too after a few days. How dare they not challenge me? I'll show them. It's not about not giving appreciation or giving it.

Don't be in a giving mood. Be in an enjoying mood. Feed off their being and self. Forget praise. You're better than that. Think of her as a kindred spirit who is no different than you. This sounds stupid simple but I often try to drive this mindset all the time when talking to people. If they ever give you too much trouble, that's fine too. Save yourself 15 minutes and go find a women who fulfills your desires better. All women have to give challenges of some sort. How would they separate the fitting partners from the bad ones? I don't blame them either. That f you mentality is truly poisonous and it seeps into your entire life. Stay far away from it, trust me. Try thinking stuff their way.

I agree with what you are saying, Traindom. But, I have had a good state of mind for ~ 27 years, but I've only had sex once in those 27 years. I suppose that should explain my frustration. Anyhow, I definitely appreciate your advice and will keep it in mind. I am going to let my experiences shape my beliefs for the time being. If I see them becoming unhealthy, I'll change them later.

shadow,

what do you mean when you say you have always loved and appreciated women? How has that affected your behavior? From what I am hearing, it sounds like perhaps you treated women with unearned respect simply because they are women. Women definitely don't want to date a guy who worships the ground they walk on just because they have a vagina.

Usually when guys with little experience say they "love and appreciate women" it's code for neediness. Being needy is actually quite manipulative and selfish, but it's dressed in the sheepskin of being nice and giving.

I think you moving towards a "I'm going to be a challenge" mindset is a good change.