(05-19-2011 09:17 PM)Brett Wrote:  

(05-19-2011 03:55 PM)Mark Wrote:  The blogs picked up a number of female readers in the last year (they email me now and again). I believe her... and so far I agree with everything's she's posted.

You agree that how early a girl sleeps with you indicates her level of slutty-ness?

I would say that I agree that a girl who hooks up with you quickly is a better sign of the girl's general sexual interest (or "sluttiness" if you want to call it that) rather than her actual interest in you. Sinn used to say this a lot: A girl doesn't have to like you to want to have sex with you. A lot of ONS's the girl has absolutely no interest in seeing you again either.

But the point is, is that without knowing Leo at all, she came in and hit his issue on the head. Women give him pretty clear signals, yet he chooses to not trust them, and therefore gets confused and convinces himself that these women are playing games with him. It's a self-fulfilling prophecy: you don't trust women, so you don't believe them and begin acting demanding and needy, which in turn scares them off, which then just reinforces the belief that they're playing games with you, when really they never were. Your paranoia just scared them away.

interesting...I pick up a new paradigm everyday. I like this one. I think we should replace the term "slutty" with "sexually interested." Slutty is too pejorative.

and thanks for the clarification

Yeah. I like sluts. No reason to hate.

well, that's because you're a man-whore...slut.

Ah my never ending paradox: hatesluts.lovesluts.hatesluts.lovesluts.hatesluts.lovesluts.

I see there is some question as to whether or not I am really a girl (I am talking to you DavelyDrama)... yes I am a girl for real, I am not about to post a pictorial of my vagina, so you will have to just take my word for it I guess lol. I came across this site randomly and first thought it was just plain funny, but it's become a great source of entertainment during my downtime at work, and if I can offer you boys some advice from the other side, all the better. And you never know, I may be seeking some of your help one day.

Leo, you questioned when I said that girls who like a guy won't play hard to get. I stand by that. Just like you guys have your "rules," we do too. One of them is not to appear too needy or desperate. So yeah, maybe a girl won't be up your ass with texts everyday, but when it comes to actually committing to a date- if she is interested, she will be there.

(05-20-2011 03:25 AM)youregettingitwrong Wrote:  Leo, you questioned when I said that girls who like a guy won't play hard to get. I stand by that. Just like you guys have your "rules," we do too. One of them is not to appear too needy or desperate. So yeah, maybe a girl won't be up your ass with texts everyday, but when it comes to actually committing to a date- if she is interested, she will be there.

I know you girls do it, some go overboard I get tired and move on or I test them to see if they are just playing hard to get and are really interested in me. It's funny to see girl's faces when I test them, I flirt with another girl in front of them and they get scared, lol! Some of them are very REACTIVE. It's funny that girls criticize guys when we are reactive but they can be very reactive too. Playing hard to get is pretty common, I've had GFs that tell me after we've been together for a while: Oh, I was just playing hard to get. I don't see it like something malicious I even see it like something childish, funny. I do have a problem when girls that I like do this because I have an anxiety disorder, that's all. But lately with the girls that I've been interacting it seem that it's becoming an epidimic behaviour. Almost no girl is acting naturally lately and that's a pity because a lot of girls are funny when they are themselves, they don't need all that BS, it can become boring.
You asked if I asked this girl out, of course I did, 3 times. I had to test her to see what was going on. She was very reactive, lol!
Again, before I get criticized because I believe that some girls play games, I don't see it like something malicious, I have problems when this happens with girls that I like, that's it. No biggie.