I actually approached hot girls in a nightclub tonight--something I didn't expect to do when I started reading this site a few weeks ago--so I'm apparently committed enough to this stuff that I ought to join the forums.

I've never tried to have an impressive conversation with a stranger in a club. It was so fucking loud in most places that nobody could have discerned the difference between me saying that she's cute and me asking where the bathroom is. The only times I felt comfortable hitting on a girl was outside near a patio; the other two girls I talked to really couldn't hear me that well.

I haven't seen this issue addressed much. Which locations in a club are an actual advantage for picking up women? Anyplace the speakers are aimed at seems like a recipe for confusion.

I had the same problem when I turned 18 and started going out... but you'll get used to it (both speaking through loud music and hearing what people say).

You should practice your vocal projection. Most people speak to quietly anyway.

Yes, find places further away from the wpeakers. Also, your voice gets stronger. Congrats on your first club approach!

This is something I still haven't mastered. I find that I'm always yelling in girls ears and they still have no idea what I'm saying. lol. The further away from the speakers, the better.

Oh, forgot to add - speak as deeply as you possibly can. A deep voice carries better.

Thanks for the congratulations; I feel like I've opened a door for myself.

It's good to hear that other people experience this too. Mark wrote somewhere about clubs being less of a struggle earlier in the night; is it partly because the warmup isn't as loud as peak hours?

Yeah a lot of clubs turn up the volume at peak hours (1 am in ny). Other less loud (not quiet) areas: near the bar, at tables that are normally used for bottle service, near coat check (although not the best place to hang out.

Loudest: Dance floor, near the DJ booth.

Also, if you know where a quiet spot is, you can approach direct, be really loud for like a minute, then say "it's loud, let's go talk on the patio" and if she moves, you've killed two birds with one stone: you are somewhere less loud, and you know she is interested in you enough to move.

I am not really good at this. But I used to go to clubs a lot. And by lot, I mean a lot. I think the most efficient way of seducing women at clubs is by being extremely physical. More experienced people can obviously guide you better. But that seems to be the best course of action. You have to calibrate your escalation though, otherwise you'll get instantly blown out. If you keep doing it enough, you'll start to notice the patterns.

Just something you get used to. Everyone goes through this when they start. I don't even notice the volume of the music anymore. Sometimes I feel like I could curl up on the dance floor and take a nap... sometimes I wish I could. lol.

(05-06-2011 08:32 PM)Gaius Theremin Wrote:  I actually approached hot girls in a nightclub tonight--something I didn't expect to do when I started reading this site a few weeks ago--so I'm apparently committed enough to this stuff that I ought to join the forums.

I've never tried to have an impressive conversation with a stranger in a club. It was so fucking loud in most places that nobody could have discerned the difference between me saying that she's cute and me asking where the bathroom is. The only times I felt comfortable hitting on a girl was outside near a patio; the other two girls I talked to really couldn't hear me that well.

I haven't seen this issue addressed much. Which locations in a club are an actual advantage for picking up women? Anyplace the speakers are aimed at seems like a recipe for confusion.

Congrats on your first approach.

If you can't understand her, simply tell her: "Hey its so loud here I can't hear you, lets go over to the lounge area" Of course don't try to isolate her from her friends immediately after you approached her