RE: Any advice for older guys interested in young girls?
Well its a confidence issue if you do not try. I have tried ALOT. So for me its not a confidence issue and to be honest I am sick and tired of every guy using the confidence issue thing as some kind of penicillin that can cure every cold and cancer. Its not. Believe me if you have truly lived life, its not. If a guy is trying, its not confidence per say, its technique or reality I would think. Its like, what if you have a product to sell and you have tried advertising, PR, sales people and every avenue but you cannot sell the product. You have total confidence in your product but you cannot sell it. Its not a confidence issue, its a problem that needs some wisdom and technique help.
I have been sold a bunch of goods by other products (not Mark's) that tell you "oh younger women lover older men." Well I am around alot of younger women with work and play and I do not see that at all. Never have. Hence my questions...
So in earnest can any body help? What do I do? I am very attracted to them and keep myself in good shape and look young but when the age thing is brought up I have trouble - real trouble not "confidence" trouble.
Sorry to be longwinded, but I need the help. So anybody have anything that can help?
The best information I've got about this issue is in the book: Date Young Women for men over 35 by R. Don Steele. Almost everything he says in the book has happened to me. I'm 38 y-o hitting on 21-24 y-o girls, no sex with them so far but I'm getting better and better. You can't find information in the book about building comfort and creating an emotional connection with the girl, which I think is very important because the girl is gonna be scared because of the age gap, and he doesn't talk about shit-tests and believe me, young girls are gonna test you constantly, they wnat to know if you are the real deal.
What can you expect from young girls? A LOT of games: playing hard to get, scheduling games, phone tag, ignoring you, etc. They are girls that's what they know to do, so don't take it personally and don't let them play with your time or disrespect you in any way, thay are expecting an STRONG man so act accordingly, don't take any of her shit. You don't have to act like a jerk but set your boundaries in a clear way.
Don't think because she's young she's gonna make your life a paradise, they are immature, no experience in life, don't put them on a pedestal or you are gonna start from a bad position.
You really have to learn to be unreactive, they are gona be testing you constantly.
You have to be patient, it takes time, they are scared, they can be attracted to you but they are scared. It's a new situation for them. Therefore deal with your social circle, cold approach is not gonna work.
The bright side about this? When you deal with women, passing their tests, playing along when they play hard to get (without letting them disrespect you in any way), etc. It's a piece of cake. For me dealing with women in their 30s is really easy. Young girls are a lot harder.
I hope this helps.
(This post was last modified: 04-09-2011 06:24 AM by Leo.)