Hey,
I have a bit of oneitis for a girl. She is sort of a friend, and she has never outright rejected me, but she has never shown a lot of interest either. But going after what you want and being aggressive is attractive, however when does this cross the line and go too far?
To put it simply, I like her as a person and sexually. I don't want to ruin a friendship and have her not like me. But also I would kick myself if I never really went for it. So what should I do?

Go for it. If it "ruins" your friendship, then she was never really a good friend, was she?

No way of knowing unless you go for it.

BUT BE SUBTLE ABOUT IT!

Don't go outright creeper mode, take her on a date date, like do something just the two of you and take it from there, see where it goes.

Plus stop with the oneitis, its perfectly normal to like A girl if you are straight.

Go for it. And go for it soon. I went through something quite similar, and the sooner you go for it, the better off you'll be. The longer those feelings build up, the bigger the letdown if she's not into it. IF she says no, you'll feel like shit in the short term, but you'll more or less get over it eventually, and you'll feel infinitely better in the long run. On a side note, if the answer is no, try your damndest to act completely normal when you see her, and you should be fine (see my "pathetic story" for exactly what NOT to do, now that's how you a kill a friendship!).

(04-29-2011 09:54 PM)matty Wrote:  Go for it. And go for it soon. I went through something quite similar, and the sooner you go for it, the better off you'll be. The longer those feelings build up, the bigger the letdown if she's not into it. IF she says no, you'll feel like shit in the short term, but you'll more or less get over it eventually, and you'll feel infinitely better in the long run.

nailed it

If you like her, you have to tell her. Rather risk losing a friendship than be a chicken.