I recently read something written Bobby Rio, emphasizing the importance of having a flirty mindset and giving off a flirty vibe as soon as you start talking. I was wondering if others agree that having this mindset is more important than worrying about specifically what to say?

Absolutely.

Games is 98% who you ARE and your attitude and vibe, and 2% the words you actually say.

Is mindset that thought or vibe you perpetuate in your head while you do something? That's my idea of mindset.

I was deliberating as to how manipulable mindsets can be.

Mindset is basically how you frame whatever happens to you.

So a poor mindset would be something like: "She didn't like me. I guess I'm too stupid/lame/ugly for a girl like that to like me."

A good mindset would be something like: "She didn't like me. She's missing out on the best opportunity of her life."

(04-17-2011 04:31 AM)Mark Wrote:  Mindset is basically how you frame whatever happens to you.

So a poor mindset would be something like: "She didn't like me. I guess I'm too stupid/lame/ugly for a girl like that to like me."

A good mindset would be something like: "She didn't like me. She's missing out on the best opportunity of her life."

What's cool with mindsets is that they usually aren't verifiably true or false. And you can hold any mindset and see proof for it all around you, and even create proof for it all around you..

I've been thinking about this in relation to the beliefs that trigger my self-consciousness/social anxiety. The belief that people's opinions matter, and the beliefs that people's opinions don't matter, they are both valid, only from different perspectives. Pretty fascinating.