Hello!

In my last FBs, short term and long term relationsship, I discovered often a big sticking point: to hold the attraction. At the beginning the women were very attracted and wanted to have sex with me. After some time (depended from the woman, but with a few it happened as soon as we had sex a couple of times) the sexual interest decreases, while the comfort or rapport is equal or even increases. The women dont initiate sex as often as they did, even kissing is happening less. I know, that there usually cannot be the same passion like during the first sex, but this speed and amount of decreasement is not normal.

The women dont lose their interest in generak. I heard sometimes, that they never build up such a strong connection so fast, that i was her best boyfriend, that she never had that amount of trust/comfort with anyone. But I think, that this amount of trust and comfort is the reason, why I lose my attraction, because the women feel just too comfortable and dont have the need to invest in me.

Here are some points I discovered, which are or can be mistakes:

- I am too needy. I meet these women to often (specially for the beginning). When I am really interested in a girl and have sex with her, I stop sarging/gaming.
- I am too helpful
- sometimes I am physical needy (cuddling a lot, specially during the sleep, holding too often her hand, kissing her too often.
- I am not confident in general. In beginning I can hide through some game, but at some point my insecurity will show up.

- my sexual skills are good/very good, but i think that I eat a woman too often out. I am really good in this and enjoy it, but imo it is not good for the attraction to lick her almost every time befor sex for 5-20 minutes, because i just "invest" in her too much.

My question is, how to avoid these mistakes and how to recover from them. Also, how should I react when I get some rejection (e.g., I make a move, but she does not want have sex/kissing)?

To be honest I suspect that you are not as good in bed as you think you are. Are you capable of being rough, dominant and dirty in bed? Can you pin her down on the bed and whisper very dirty things into her ear? Be dominant and tell her exactly what to do? Spank her ass hard every now and then?

Sex isn't just techniques (like moving your tongue the right way). The mental part plays a very big role. For many women, being with a dominant man is a turn on.

To all the questions: yes, I do. I really dont think that the problem lies there, since I received many honest compliments about my skills and feel that the woman enjoy it very much (last time she had 6 big orgasms in the morning. But later she rejected to have sex at night again).

How do u think shoudl I deal with these rejections and how can I recover to be sexual attractive again.

My experience has been that the minute you relax about sex and dont go for it all the time is the point that she gets comfortable to initiate it with you. Once you have that experience a few times you wont need to initiate it in the same way you used to. She will play an equal role in making it happen.

Thanks for the great tip GeeCee!

It´s just not that easy, when u have a smoking lady lying next to you, but I will give my best ; )

Haha yeah it requires self control. It pays mad dividends though.

I like initiating sex. There's a big difference between her not initiating sex and her refusing sex. I think GeeCee's comment is very useful, that you relax about sex. And never *ask* for sex. NEVER beg for sex.

I'm surprised that you do all the things I mentioned. Your behavior outside of the bedroom must be very different from your behavior inside the bedroom then. For what reason do you cuddle, kiss, hold her hand all the time? Are you looking for confirmation that she likes you by doing this? Try to practice your self-control in these areas too! If your behavior really screams insecurity then of course she will lose her sexual attraction for you..

About initiating sex: try reading what mood she's in. There are many moods for a girl where she will not only be not in the mood, but she'll be upset for you trying to get sex with her while she is in that mood. This is a matter of knowing her and reading her bodylanguage, what she's talking about, how she's responding to you, etc. If you're unsure, do subtle things and see how she responds to those. Don't make it obvious you want sex right away.

Yeah, it is really different.

Very good tips, too! Thank you very much Philip!