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Self-conscious about my appearance
This isn't quite the same as the "too ugly" thread IMO which is why I'm starting a new thread.

I don't think my face is ugly; I probably am not going to be a male model, but I think my features are proportionate and my female friends have told me that I'd be attrctive if I lost weight. I knew at least one girl had a crush on me in school (though nothing came out of it and I pretended like I never heard it). Many people have also said that I look older than I am.

I'm on a great weight-loss programme now but it'll be a couple of months before my abs are visible. My gut doesn't burst out of my clothes but it does bulge. I have broad shoulders (about 24 inches from deltoid to deltoid) and you can tell that I workout more or less, but I still feel self-conscious about that; one of my grandmothers always says I'm fat, needless to say, I loathe that grandmother for this and other reasons, but I can't help thinking that that's the way other people here think of me too. This is an Asian country and the standards for beauty are skinnier than in the West.

I've just graduated from high school and don't really have much money to spend on clothes etc. I buy a lot of books and protein powder every so often so maybe that's just a case of different priorities. Anyway i don't plan on buying more clothes at my current size since I'll klose more weight and they won't fit any more. I mostly wear dark t-shirts and long trousers -- the t-shirts are not baggy though the trousers are.except for exercise shorts. I feel cheap wearing this to meet girls when they dress so much better than me but currently I mostly go out to the gym, the bookstore or the library so dressing "up" for that seems unnecessary.

Am I being overanalystic? I thought of posting this for a while since the forum just started but coudln't get it out right. but bthese are the main things that keep me from being out doing day game (night game is too expensive for me now).
04-11-2011 03:48 PM
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RE: Self-conscious about my appearance
Your looks are never a valid reason for not taking action. Ever. You're making excuses.

Yes, work on your looks, get in shape, etc. But go out too.

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04-11-2011 04:03 PM
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RE: Self-conscious about my appearance
I believe that the most important thing is that girls see that you work on your appearance and take care of yourself.
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04-11-2011 09:00 PM
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RE: Self-conscious about my appearance
If you are thinking about it all the time you will always feel something is off with your clothes
Always wear stuff you believe you look good in and then forget about it as soon as you are dressed
04-11-2011 11:15 PM
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RE: Self-conscious about my appearance
if it only were that easy... Just read some Tolle, bro and stop being self-conscious Wink
04-11-2011 11:37 PM
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RE: Self-conscious about my appearance
Quote:Am I being overanalystic?

Yes.

Dude I have a belly (I'm working on it!). Girls dont mention it. They are too self-conscious about you judging them.

The way I see it is that we see girls as static snapshots... hence a bit of objectification tends to happen...
I think girls are more interested in the dynamic of you.... so where are you moving towards... what are you explaining... where are you directing your energy..... if your geniunley working on yourself.... you are! Thats important to the babes.

I think thats why a lot of girls cant be attracted to a picture of a guy. They have to see how he acts and moves.

Hope that makes sense.
04-12-2011 04:25 AM
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RE: Self-conscious about my appearance
I used to have a nice big belly. A lot of girls I dated actually claimed they liked it.

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04-12-2011 05:03 AM
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RE: Self-conscious about my appearance
Muscels are just too hard.
I wish i didnt work out today Wink
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04-12-2011 05:19 AM
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RE: Self-conscious about my appearance
"Ripped Abs" are soft when you relax them.
It depends on what look you prefer for yourself. Some kind of girl will be more into it (usually athletic ones), some not, some won't care either way.
No way to find out what is "better" until you tried it.
04-12-2011 05:51 AM
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RE: Self-conscious about my appearance
I would argue that you should get in shape just to please yourself and not to give yourself a look necessarily. Im working out at the moment and although my better posture gets me some attention I would be slightly disappointed if a girl rated my looks better than my awesome banter. Wink
04-12-2011 07:11 AM
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