So assuming the main objective is to build skill at hooking up with new girls.

Where do you start?

Going to bars/bookstores etc and hitting on girls seems well and good, but I can't get myself to do it right off the bat... some anxiety or something.

So how do you get the momentum going? I assume, like anything, it's gonna take a ton of repetition to get good.

I want to be able to practice in a consistent, disciplined way, like with other skills. I'm having trouble finding my way into that groove though.

I have the desire. Just a mental block I gotta work my way past.

I FEEL YOU MAN. I FEEL YOU.

But seriously, it looks like we're in the same boat. In my mind I constantly focus on "a ton of repetition to get good" too, while I can't even make that first cold approach. I'm getting closer though. Mark's advice is solid and I've made some good realizations.

What are your goals? What do you think is keeping you from approaching?

I'm not sure... it might be a kind of, 'if I'm not getting shit done, it's a waste of time'... type feeling. It's like a mixture of a bunch of things.

I almost feel inferior or something... like I have to actually put work into finding girls when everyone else can just go about their business and have them fall on their lap...

That plus probably a fair dose of approach/sexual anxiety takes a lot out of my motivation... at least when it comes to getting the ball rolling.

That being said. Once I find some structure and a way to, somewhat comfortably, keep a steady practice regimen, I will kill it, no doubt.

There are a few free Programs out there that give you excersizes if you can´t beat your AA

After you did a few Approaches it all doesnt seem like a big deal anymore. Just keep having fun you will get better as long as you are doing something

The first approach in the club/ on a day is always the hardest

What have you done so far, in terms of real action?

edit: can you share which free programs you're talking about Lycan?

One i can think of right now is the "Don Juan Boot camp"

I read it ages ago and also did the first 3 weeks of it i think
I dont know if everything in there is still good since its a few years old

Anyway just google it and have a look for yourself

Try Mark's G3 program. Starts at ground level and builds. Minimal lifestyle first, then 'pre-cold approach' exercises, and then build momentum from there. If you're unsure about paying for something yet, then have a read over this article and see what you think: http://www.practicalpickup.com/guide-to-...with-women

Complete structure, practice regimen, starts off easy and slowly builds: http://www.getgirlsguaranteed.com/video.html

Seriously, if you're serious about this, do it. A large percentage of the guys in there have gotten lays and girlfriends within a couple months of joining.

Read every one of Mark's free blog posts. That should get you started and steer you in the right direction. Dress Better, Workout, Eat Right, Engage with Life, Learn Something New, See a Therapist if need be, Make new friends, start talking to random people, lead an interestin life outside of pickup, and then... start talking to girls. Also what has worked for me is to not over think things. Anytime i do shit goes bad. I get the best results when I just introduce myself to someone and "let go", if that makes sense...

I have been working on all of the above for about 3 months now, let me tell you, I have NO game. I literally just say "Hi, my name is ___ , what's yours?" I have been meeting so many girls lately it's shocking, and again this is with ZERO "game" other than the basics i outlined above. I had a girl ask me for my # on friday night and text me the next morning. I'm confident that I'm interesting, look my best, and am having fun regardless of my results. The difference in the way girls respond to me now is redic. And this is a result of getting the obvious things about myself in order. I have Mark to thank for that, an that's only from reading his free materials. Read every last post on his blog. Just do it! blah blah blah, ramble ramble ramble.

Regards,
Soul_Fire