If you escalate that hard in day game you will seem like a creep or a rapist

One thing I learned about day game videos on pickuptube, but also night game actually, was how incredibly positive the guys were in the videos. After reading too much about negging, cocky and funny, teasing, etc. I thought you should never straight up be nice and complimentary. This resulted in me somtimes sounding kind of weird/bitter/negative or something, because I THOUGHT this was the way to go.

In the pickuptube videos, it's alwyas "Perfect!" "Awesome!" "Great!" "You like that? Me too, it's awesome! High five!" Constantly being fun and looking for a connection, as opposed to trying to talk down what she's saying.

(04-13-2011 11:56 PM)cobrastyle Wrote:  Homework (for night game): If a girl initially reacts positively to you, try to get rejected by escalating too fast and being too pushy. (You'll be surprised how far you can take it if you're just persistent enough.)

I'm not shy in a nightclub situation once I know a girl is interested in me. And you can definitely go far! A few weeks ago I was making out with this girl, who was wearing just a flimsy dress and only underwear under it. Pretty hot. I was touching her all over while kissing in the crowded club. She seemed to like it, so I kept going further. Then I went below her dress and tried to finger her. She pulled back and gave me a disapproving look. I don't remember exactly, but I think I just smiled. There was no problem at all, and moments later we were making out again.

So even "rejection" doesn't mean you'll be actually rejected!

Yeah one thing that I learned from other coach is that when o try to escalate, and succeed - you are going one step forward, but when she stops you - you are still going forward, but only now 1/5 or something of the step. So you never get negative points from trying to escalate.

(04-14-2011 04:03 AM)Philip Wrote:  One thing I learned about day game videos on pickuptube, but also night game actually, was how incredibly positive the guys were in the videos. After reading too much about negging, cocky and funny, teasing, etc. I thought you should never straight up be nice and complimentary. This resulted in me somtimes sounding kind of weird/bitter/negative or something, because I THOUGHT this was the way to go.

In the pickuptube videos, it's alwyas "Perfect!" "Awesome!" "Great!" "You like that? Me too, it's awesome! High five!" Constantly being fun and looking for a connection, as opposed to trying to talk down what she's saying.

Yeah thats true
But somehow the old PU knowledge is still burned in my brain so i constantly make jokes about the girl. Dont know if this is a good thing

(04-14-2011 04:19 AM)Philip Wrote:  

(04-13-2011 11:56 PM)cobrastyle Wrote:  Homework (for night game): If a girl initially reacts positively to you, try to get rejected by escalating too fast and being too pushy. (You'll be surprised how far you can take it if you're just persistent enough.)

I'm not shy in a nightclub situation once I know a girl is interested in me. And you can definitely go far! A few weeks ago I was making out with this girl, who was wearing just a flimsy dress and only underwear under it. Pretty hot. I was touching her all over while kissing in the crowded club. She seemed to like it, so I kept going further. Then I went below her dress and tried to finger her. She pulled back and gave me a disapproving look. I don't remember exactly, but I think I just smiled. There was no problem at all, and moments later we were making out again.

So even "rejection" doesn't mean you'll be actually rejected!

Yeah she has to give you that look because she doesnt want to be seen as a slut. Thught some girls allow you to finger them in the middle of the dancefloor

(04-14-2011 05:36 AM)Lycan Wrote:  

(04-14-2011 04:03 AM)Philip Wrote:  One thing I learned about day game videos on pickuptube, but also night game actually, was how incredibly positive the guys were in the videos. After reading too much about negging, cocky and funny, teasing, etc. I thought you should never straight up be nice and complimentary. This resulted in me somtimes sounding kind of weird/bitter/negative or something, because I THOUGHT this was the way to go.

In the pickuptube videos, it's alwyas "Perfect!" "Awesome!" "Great!" "You like that? Me too, it's awesome! High five!" Constantly being fun and looking for a connection, as opposed to trying to talk down what she's saying.

Yeah thats true
But somehow the old PU knowledge is still burned in my brain so i constantly make jokes about the girl. Don't know if this is a good thing

Depends on how you do it and also on the girl. Some of them like to be teased, and some don't at all. "Test the water" and see what reactions you get.

There are probably many other factors that I'm not aware of that determine whether should tease or not.

On todays date i did it constantly and after some time she was assuming im making fun of her when i was just looking at her with a smile

I like to tease and make fun but I make up for it in being super positive about her, her life, her goals etc. I just dont let that good positive stuff lose its texture and sound like Im a broken record.
Another way I try to keep that texture is to talk a lot about my own life in a positive light. Back and forth, bit of teasing, bit of roleplay, but really nothing too advanced. Girls I like tend to be great at teasing me too so its a mutual thing.

As for 'feeding the pony' on the dancefloor... if it gets that far just get her home! No more thinking required.

(04-14-2011 07:22 AM)GeeCee Wrote:  As for 'feeding the pony' on the dancefloor... if it gets that far just get her home! No more thinking required.

In my case, I did take her home. I didn't close the deal though! She slept next to me naked, but no sex. She turned out to be a little emotionally unstable, and on top of that she was very worried for her friend, who would be sleeping in their car in an indoor parking garage. They were Swedish and travelling through Europe in their car, and sleeping int he car as well. AND she was worried that she wouldn't be able to find her friend the next morning.

So there I was, naked, comforting a blonde Swede with a tight body, also naked, while she was crying on my shoulder because she was so worried about the situation.

Lessons learned though!