RE: The Transition of Your Career
Basically, I had been coaching guys on the side in Boston in late 2007 and early 2008. It really came from nothing other than my reputation for pulling girls around Boston. It was fun and easy money at the time, nothing serious. In early 2008, I got a job with a big bank in Boston and began my whole 9-5 career thing.
I fucking hated it. Immediately.
I hated that place so much. I knew on the second day that I wanted to quit and switch careers. To what, I didn't know. Around that time, I had teamed up with another local guy who had started coaching (Doc, a couple of the VERY early articles on this site are actually his) and we began to make a bit of a name for ourselves locally and around some lairs and whatnot.
June of 2008, a full three months into my corporate career, I decided I couldn't take it anymore. Fuck it. I was 24 at the time, had some money saved up and at the time, it seemed like the coaching thing was just taking off. So I figured, only way to learn to swim is to jump into the deep end. I took my two weeks paid vacation and then immediately quit afterward. I was scared shitless, but it was the best decision I ever made. I've met a lot of guys who really just need to take the plunge and quit their day job and go for it, but are way too scared to do it. I don't blame them.
The coaching plateau'd out for a long time. It turned into a grind. Boston, LA, Chicago, NYC, Boston again, Austin, Orlando, back to Boston... every weekend it was somewhere else. My money ran out, we became broke and started sleeping on students' couches so we didn't have to get hotels. Doc quit in early 2009. This actually saved me because now I didn't have to split the income in half. If he hadn't left, we would have bottomed out. I was broke enough as it was for just about all of 2009 on my own.
Around this time, I realized that the only way to create a sustainable income out of this was to: 1) develop the blog into getting lots of traffic and having a lot of high value content and 2) putting out online products that guys really liked. It took about another year of 14-hour work days teaching myself about web design, copywriting, marketing, product design, etc. and I eventually got there. Beginning early last year, I finally reached a place of stable, decent income.
I've always been highly individualistic and hate people telling me what to do. My grandfather was a successful entrepreneur and my father is a successful entrepreneur as well. So it didn't seem like such a radical idea to me since I was brought up in a family where it was normal. Although I was intimidated as hell, it was a no-brainer then, and a no-brainer now.
I always tell guys to just go for it. When you have a business idea, no matter how much you research, you never know what you don't know. It's not until you jump in and start doing it that you realize how much you don't know and what you need to know. I always tell guys, success or failure, starting your own business will probably be one of the most educational experiences of your life, in many ways.
Although I do believe strongly that you don't have to have the best game to be a great coach, what IS more important is experience level. Everyone and their dog has started coaching in the last year or so and so many of these guys really have no idea what they're doing. They read a bunch of books, went out for a year, got laid 5-6 times and now think that they can take a newbie with all sorts of internal issues and help him. Often these guys are just peddling the same shit that they learned on other bootcamps and it actually isn't that useful.
Sinn and I used to say that the industry standard should be 30 lays before you can coach people. Not that lay counts are monumentally important, but it represents a level of experience. Until you've been with at least that many women from cold approach, there are just so many circumstances, personalities and situations you haven't experienced. Not that a guy with 200 lays will immediately be a great coach, but chances are, he's seen just about everything. A guy with 10 hasn't. Chances are he's only gotten some girls in a specific situation or gotten lucky a handful of times over the course of a year. And worst of all, he doesn't realize it.
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(This post was last modified: 04-11-2011 04:02 AM by Mark.)