RE: The Transition of Your Career
Don't get me wrong. Coaching can be easy money some times. But nobody's getting rich off of it. I guess that's my point. Coaching is great to make some quick bucks and travel a bit. But it's simply not scalable. It's not really a long-term business model. There's a reason why LoveSystems is suddenly releasing ebooks and seminars as fast as they can produce them. They need to.
As far as experience, I think if you're doing in-field coaching, you need to have a baseline of sexual experience. Keyword: sexual. I say lays because to lay a girl, you pretty much have to go through every phase that you would be required to teach a guy (meet all the way through early relationship management). Your students are going to have a wide variety of problems, and if their problem falls in an area that you don't have much experience, then you're going to give them shitty advice. Good advice can't be faked. It just can't. It's so easy to spot fake advice in this industry.
Also, if you coach, you need to be able to demo. And to demo without losing your shit, you need to have a very strong foundation of experience. A guy could just go on PlentyofFish and get 200 dates. I don't think qualifies him as "experienced" at all though.
Yes, lays aren't the most important thing in the world, but they're a good benchmark to judge experience. Guys who hit the 15-25 lay area, typically they've gotten more success than any of their friends or wingmen, and banging a couple dozen girls still FEELS like a lot, so they begin to over-estimate how much they actually know or that they've actually experienced. And sure, newbies who are virgins and clueless, they can still teach them something, but they're not going to be able to teach them well, in my opinion.
And that's the thing, just about none of these coaches ever make it anywhere. I'd say for every guy who "breaks in" to the industry -- and even some guys who break in don't make enough to support themselves -- for every guy who breaks through, there are 10 businesses that go under within six months. I get emails for links and stuff from them all the time. Six months later they're gone.
The reason why is because the key to this industry is being able to spit out new, original content on the regular, and there are very, very, very few people who can do that. Most people just parrot Mystery Method, or Juggler or RSD, and typically you never hear from them again after six months. Anyone who breaks into this industry breaks into it because they're writing and teaching shit no one's ever thought of before. It's how I broke in. It's how Rob Judge broke in. It's how 60YoC broke in.
Creating new and unique content regularly requires two things: a good brain and a lot of experience. Also, since the market is so much more competitive these days, and there are a shitload of guys who are boasting a shitload of experience, that requirement is even higher.
The dating advice market in general is continuing to grow. The PUA market is shrinking. But both markets are also getting much more saturated. It's far harder to break in now than it was back in 2008.
I don't say all of this stuff to dissuade you. I'm just being very, very blunt because I see dozens of yahoos come and go every year, thinking they're about to cash in on the party lifestyle. This business is not a rock star lifestyle. It's hard work. It's a retarded amount of hard work -- mainly writing, but also building a web presence and answering the same questions over and over and over and over again.
I would say if you just want to make some bucks on the side, then it's pretty easy to get into. Just about any major city in the world has a bunch of guys willing to pay $100 to help them approach or whatever. But if you want to turn it into a full-time career and a living, then you're going to have to show the world something they haven't seen before.
Again, I'll note that I have no idea what the market is like in Malaysia or even what the culture is really like. I know that there are a lot of Latin PUA companies starting up, but they're having a lot of trouble just because the culture is so different down there. What works in the US doesn't necessarily work there at all. That may be the case in Malaysia too. I don't know.
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(This post was last modified: 04-12-2011 06:09 PM by Mark.)