I thought I was over sexual anxiety, because going for kiss closes and escalating further is now fairly easy for me, but now that I think about it, in my daily interactions I'm still not sexual and very 'nice guy', and I pretty much never openly display interest. Being sexual when I know a girl is interested in me and we're at a club or something is fine, probably because I've gradually overcome this fear, but displaying sexual interest to a girl I don't know yet is very hard.

You say 'I would try attacking it from that angle'. How is that angle different from what you advised before?

Your sticking point is that you don't display interest until you receive it first.

:O

You're right!

(04-08-2011 08:13 PM)Philip Wrote:  :O

You're right!

Gold!

One thing: showing sexual interest often makes her sexually interested in you. The actual escalation is attractive to her. Especially without waiting for her permission.

I mentioned in another thread that I replied to today a nice way to lessen your ego input with a little lessen from George from Sienfield.
http://www.practicalpickup.com/forum/sho...d=9&page=2

Mark love the advice on just saying "Hi!". Because of knee-weakening good looks and jungle gorilla posture I tend to get a lot of gawping women eye me up in the street. Ive never bothered to pursue those leads since I prefer the cold approach (like a cold shower they get the blood pumping) but I think I will now.

Mark just want to say now before the forum gets bigger that I really appreciate your work. Your blog and AA blog are the only PU material I read these days. Your a legend! I may hit you up for phone coaching (to keep me sharp) one day.

(04-09-2011 06:53 PM)GeeCee Wrote:  One thing: showing sexual interest often makes her sexually interested in you. The actual escalation is attractive to her. Especially without waiting for her permission.

I mentioned in another thread that I replied to today a nice way to lessen your ego input with a little lessen from George from Sienfield.
http://www.practicalpickup.com/forum/sho...d=9&page=2

Mark love the advice on just saying "Hi!". Because of knee-weakening good looks and jungle gorilla posture I tend to get a lot of gawping women eye me up in the street. Ive never bothered to pursue those leads since I prefer the cold approach (like a cold shower they get the blood pumping) but I think I will now.

Mark just want to say now before the forum gets bigger that I really appreciate your work. Your blog and AA blog are the only PU material I read these days. Your a legend! I may hit you up for phone coaching (to keep me sharp) one day.

Sorry man, not bashing you, but why not take easy "leads" like the ones with eye contact? I have found out that those girls will nearly always open and even open you after you said "Hi!". Why make it harder? Again not wanting this to be a pissing match or something just curious why you prefer the "harder" route.

Yeah good question. Im not easily offended so I respect that your calling that one out.

I think it goes back to when I started out. I liked the fact that no one else I knew was doing cold approaches and I felt proud of myself for having started relationships with amazing girls on the back of having had no reason to speak to them in the first place.
So my huge ego gets in the way and I feel like if I initiate a conversation then Im taking the lead => higher attraction => me being the man.
Its false logic and I think that Marks angle has enlightened me a little to this. As has your comment. As your rightly say; why not have an easy life and approach girls you know already like the look of you? Well this forum membership is already paying dividends and I will be shouting "Hi!" at any lady that accidently makes eye contact from now on haha.
Seriously good point and appreciate you raising that Matt.

(04-09-2011 07:22 PM)GeeCee Wrote:  Yeah good question. Im not easily offended so I respect that your calling that one out.

I think it goes back to when I started out. I liked the fact that no one else I knew was doing cold approaches and I felt proud of myself for having started relationships with amazing girls on the back of having had no reason to speak to them in the first place.
So my huge ego gets in the way and I feel like if I initiate a conversation then Im taking the lead => higher attraction => me being the man.
Its false logic and I think that Marks angle has enlightened me a little to this. As has your comment. As your rightly say; why not have an easy life and approach girls you know already like the look of you? Well this forum membership is already paying dividends and I will be shouting "Hi!" at any lady that accidently makes eye contact from now on haha.
Seriously good point and appreciate you raising that Matt.

Cool man. Yeah I can relate to you´re point too though. It is in the end a LOT of fun to walk up to a women in whos reality you have never appeared not even a few seconds before, and sweep her away with you´re confidence and humour.