Hey all,

I recently got out of a relationship. After a month of going out but not meeting anyone that I'm into, I'm going back to the drawing board. As context, I'm 26 year old and like to think I have a lot going for me (decent looking, in shape, dress well, awesome job, ivy grad etc...). I'm interested in getting into a relationship with a girl 22-27. I'm less interested in the "hot girl at the club" than an attractive, bright girl who has similar ambitions. Weird, I think I might be growing up...haha

My biggest problem atm is that I don't make adequate time to go out and don't appropriately choose where to spend my time. Hanging out with friends at the local dive bar is great, but not going to give me results. Thus, here's where I'll plan on meeting this girl in NYC. I'm just getting back on the horse, so any critiques and suggestions are more than welcome.

Bars Bars can be a dead-end for me. There's nothing worse than "it's 2 AM, lets go to the LES" and then find yourself inside a bar with tons of dudes. I'll go out 2-3 nights a week but will focus my efforts on trendy lounge spots in NYC. It seems like Soho, W. Village, and Meatpacking can be fruitful, particularly on weekdays. I don't drink much but will have to be careful with that

Cultural stuff in NYC This is the biggest area where i want to focus on. There are some Meetup groups that seem cool. I have a pretty wide range of interests and could enjoy going to museum events, book-readings, etc... Anyone have recommendations of Meetup groups, museums, etc... that are good for meeting girls.

Coffee shops I typically go to the starbucks near Union Sq but for whatever reason, they don't seem to attract that many girls. Also, I'm somewhat disillusioned by coffee shops since I don't focus there on work and also don't meet many girls. However, it's a no-brainer to spend a couple hours a week reading at a coffee shop to allow serendipity to happen Anyone know any good coffee shops in NYC? I live near Un Sq but I think my best bet is to spend more time in W. Village

Online I've been on some solid online dates in the past. I have to make my profile more engaging, but for the most part, I've noticed that with enough outgoing emails you get good responses.

This should take 15-20 hours / week. I have a busy job but can certainly spare that kind of time. Anything that I'm missing from this list?

Here's a list that I got some good ideas from:

http://www.nextlevellifestyles.com/where-to-meet-women/

I think museum events are a good bet. I live in Chicago, they have singles mixers at the Museum of Contemporary Art and the Art Institute of Chicago, these are some of the better places I've been for meeting women.

I've been looking to do some volunteering lately, one of my friends and I found this organization called One Brick. They have a calendar of events, you just pick them a la carte and email one of the coordinators to get on. No other commitment after the individual events you sign up for. Only done it once so far but there were a couple of cute girls there. The best part about this specific one is that they have a social component, after every volunteering event all of the volunteers go out to a nearby bar and gets drinks/food together.

Are you implying that you spend 15-20 hours/week looking for women?