Mark, in your experience as a Dating Coach have you had HOT girls pursuing you? I've had ugly fat girls pursuing me, but so far I haven't had a hot girl pursuing me. If a hot girl is interested in me she drops hints and THEN the game starts and I pursue her, but never ever I've had a hot girl pursuing me. You think this is another myth in the PUA community or it really can be done?

To have girls "chasing" you, you have to be either have a very high social status or be very rich (golddiggers only obv).

Or beautiful. Have something going for you like dancing (Patrick Swayze level).

Myth, Unless you are seen alot with other hot chicks and you have a reputation for fucking them.

Also most of the time a girls way of hitting on a guy is making her availiable for you to hit on her.

THey will hit on you once in a blue moon like maybe one chick per year...

Mostly she'll be drunk.

Thats my Experience....

(04-10-2011 04:28 AM)Leo Wrote:  Mark, in your experience as a Dating Coach have you had HOT girls pursuing you? I've had ugly fat girls pursuing me, but so far I haven't had a hot girl pursuing me. If a hot girl is interested in me she drops hints and THEN the game starts and I pursue her, but never ever I've had a hot girl pursuing me. You think this is another myth in the PUA community or it really can be done?

It happens but its not a problem so why worry about it?

Man, you guys are all wrong...

Rich, no, it doesn't matter.

Social proof is a joke.

Yes, I have recently. It DOES have to do with perceived value, but it comes from having an identity and lifestyle that is so unique and so attractive that she can't help but be mesmerized by it. When it does happen to me it's always because I tell her that I run my own online business, I travel the world, I speak other languages, etc. This is what does it. Not all of the girls find it fascinating, but a few do, and when they do I almost can't get rid of them. Usually they're foreign. In fact, tonight I met a fucking gorgeous Brazilian. I opened her direct. She tried to blow me out. I heard her accent, so I asked her where she was from. She said Brazil, so I spoke some Portuguese to her. She flipped the fuck out. I spent the next 10-20 minutes describing why I had been to Brazil and why I traveled and she basically forced her phone number on me (I had to leave and meet friends). She demanded I take it. I don't know if I'll see her (I leave for Europe in a couple days), but the point is: it is possible. You don't have to be a world traveler or entrepreneur. You just have to be something so fascinating that they can't ignore it.

Like I told a student recently, most guys worry about SAYING something interesting or cool, when really they should worry about BEING something interesting or cool. When you ARE something amazing, then you don't have to worry about saying it.

Last year I played around with putting out the perception that I was rich. I'm not at all, but it's very easy to project with my lifestyle. It had NO effect on my results. In fact, it almost had a negative effect because it made girls want to be my girlfriend, not fuck me.

Social proof is such a joke too. I can't tell you how many times I've been on the other side of the planet, known nobody and had girls chasing me all over the club for hours. And then other times, been in a venue where I had met half the people, and the girl I approach doesn't give a flying fuck. Social proof is great within your social networks and social circles. But if you're going to a random bar or club, 90% of the girls there really don't give a damn if you know people or not.

This might be an odd question but how can you tell what about yourself is considered interesting and what isnt?

(04-10-2011 09:58 PM)Lycan Wrote:  This might be an odd question but how can you tell what about yourself is considered interesting and what isnt?

Yeah I was going to ask that. Plus I would really love to pull off you´re lifestyle Mark....any tips on that ?

Very interesting Mark.

A few weeks ago two Swedish girls in a club (edit: in Amsterdam) freaked out when I told them I had lived in Sweden for six months not long before that, and melted when I spoke a few words of simple Swedish. Within minutes a short argument ensued between the two of them because one of the girls 'claimed' me (grabbing my hand, kinoing me), while the other was talking to me.

Come to think of it, you could build your lifestyle to attract the type of girls you love the most. If you love beautiful blondes, go to Sweden for a while and learn the language and absorb the culture. If you love sensual South-American girls, travel there and learn those languages. If you love adventurous, crazy girls, go get your sky-diving license. If you like artsy girls, start playing guitar and take painting lessons. Doing these things will automatically give you a much bigger shot with the type of girls you like. (I wouldn't be surprised if Mark wrote a blogpost about it, if so I apologize for taking the credit )

Nice idea Philip however I prefer just spending time doing the things I love anyway. Any girl is interested in your life if you love it because you infuse your conversation with passion. I love girls who have passion even if its for something I have zero interest in. I think I will learn a little Spanish though.

A friend said to me a few months ago that from the outside his life wasn't that remarkable but personally he found his own life fascinating. That is the most honest and coolest thing I think I've ever heard this guy say. (He works in an office, lives with his parents and likes to smoke cigars, read and paint in his room mostly alone and he is 23).

I think your life is your art and its your duty to make it a masterpiece. If your on that journey who wouldnt want to come along for the ride.