Hey,
This girl totally knows that I like her, but nothing has happened. I now find myself somewhat in the friend zone with her. She still flirts with me when I am with her, but never goes out of her way to hang out with me or anything. I do have some influence over her, for example if she did'nt want to go for lunch but If I was really persuasive she would go.
The question is, how do I get sympathy sex from her? Because I think that is my best option. Anybody tried to get sympathy sex from a female friend?
And btw, I don't try and get sex from all my female friends, but this girl is special.

Dude, wrong forum for advice about this. If a girl does not want to have sex with you, you should not persuade her to try to do it. doesn't matter how special she is.

(06-16-2011 08:05 AM)Jon Wrote:  Dude, wrong forum for advice about this. If a girl does not want to have sex with you, you should not persuade her to try to do it. doesn't matter how special she is.

She has never outright rejected me. And I'm not forcing her to do anything.
So why shouldn't I persuade her? Is that not what "pick up" is all about? She is leaving my city in about a week, and returning to her home Country. Chances are I won't see her too often in the future. Any idea's?

Do you meet other girls regularly?

I never said force. Pick up is about getting a girl interested in you, and then moving that along to sex. You are talking about guilting a girl into sex, which probably won't work, but if it does, will make her feel terrible about herself afterwards. It's a cruel thing to do and not something that you would consider doing if you cared about her. If she hasn't outright rejected you, make a move. then stop whining and trying to get sex because a girl feels guilty.

Reprobate,

The effort/reward ratio of trying to sleep with a girl that considers you a friend is not worth it, but if you can pursue her without batting an eyelash, then go for it by all means - but then you wouldn't be posting on a forum if that was the case.

It doesn't look likely, but you can try to get her on a drink or something. Also, the terminology "sympathy sex" kinda shoots you in the foot because it doesn't make it sound mutual, at least in your own head. What this means is that you may have a hard time leading her by thinking about it this way.

Can't speak for everyone man, but whenever I think way too hard about how to have a sex with a certain girl it almost never happens. That said, you don't have to convince her to have sex, but you have nothing to lose in trying to get her attracted. Ask her to a drink/something just the two of you, and if she goes, take it from there.

Best,

-Kenj

(06-16-2011 08:22 AM)Jon Wrote:  I never said force. Pick up is about getting a girl interested in you, and then moving that along to sex. You are talking about guilting a girl into sex, which probably won't work, but if it does, will make her feel terrible about herself afterwards. It's a cruel thing to do and not something that you would consider doing if you cared about her. If she hasn't outright rejected you, make a move. then stop whining and trying to get sex because a girl feels guilty.

You are right dude. It's just that I have had some major oneitis for this girl for quite a while. Now that she is leaving, I've perhaps become a bit desperate.

(06-16-2011 08:22 AM)Jon Wrote:  I never said force. Pick up is about getting a girl interested in you, and then moving that along to sex. You are talking about guilting a girl into sex, which probably won't work, but if it does, will make her feel terrible about herself afterwards. It's a cruel thing to do and not something that you would consider doing if you cared about her. If she hasn't outright rejected you, make a move. then stop whining and trying to get sex because a girl feels guilty.

You are right dude. It's just that I have had some major oneitis for this girl for quite a while. Now that she is leaving, I've perhaps become a bit desperate.

It happens, but going through with this will not end well. Like I said, make a move, see what happens. Maybe she is more interested than you think. If not, well, at least you know, and can move on.

(06-16-2011 08:34 AM)fireform. Wrote:  Reprobate,

The effort/reward ratio of trying to sleep with a girl that considers you a friend is not worth it, but if you can pursue her without batting an eyelash, then go for it by all means - but then you wouldn't be posting on a forum if that was the case.

It doesn't look likely, but you can try to get her on a drink or something. Also, the terminology "sympathy sex" kinda shoots you in the foot because it doesn't make it sound mutual, at least in your own head. What this means is that you may have a hard time leading her by thinking about it this way.

Can't speak for everyone man, but whenever I think way too hard about how to have a sex with a certain girl it almost never happens. That said, you don't have to convince her to have sex, but you have nothing to lose in trying to get her attracted. Ask her to a drink/something just the two of you, and if she goes, take it from there.

Best,

-Kenj

Cheers man. That is some good advice, and I will take notice of it. Especially the "think way too hard about how to have a sex with a certain girl" part. That has been a stumbling block for me, with girls that I'm really into.