I just read a LR of j.T. Tran (former Asian Playboy) of ABC Attraction which kinda shocked me. It leads to the question, how much bullshit can you take from a girl and when you should staying true to your values and leave her, even that you could take her home.
Here is the LR (if you don´t wanna read the whole thing but get directly to the interesting part you can start reading from: "She says, "I'm not racist or anything, but I think you Asians are taking over our country!")
Here are my and his comments on that.
: She is discriminating against you and your own people right in front of you, and you´re saying: " I had a great night with you" (although she bored you of your mind) and taking her home with you? Really? Sorry, but I can understand if a guy who is desperated with women left his morals and values behind and took her home. But I NEVER would have expected that from a PUA and specially not from a dating coach.
I find that the vast majority of white people hold similar sentiments. They just don't verbalize it or instead couch it in political correctness. The point is to break her (and them) in one person at a time.
As long as people keep their views for themselves and don´t do any kind of harm I don´t care about someone´s view. But when they do, I lose any interest in them.
And what do you mean with break her? By making out and taking her home you actually showed her, that it is not only okay to think like that, but also to mention it in front of people. If you had told her your opinion about that and left her, she would maybe think about her opinion, or at least not mention it next time in front of people.
No, you can't change a woman's mind, but you can change her mood. I'm not going to sit there and talk POLITICS with a woman in the middle of a club. Now, she has a memory of having a pretty fun time, making out, feeling pretty with getting her picture taken like she was a celebrity, and being taken home. All positive experiences she now associates with Asian men. You don't sit around and try to "out-logic" someone out of their assumptions and preconceptions.
l: Sure, I wouldn´t neither start a debate in a club, specially not with a woman with that kind of views. But if someone insults you or your people, specially in a racist way, it´s important imo to show that you don´t accept this behaviour.
And I don´t think, because she had a great evening/night with you, she will change her view about ALL ASIAN men. She might think that you are an exception to the rule. I mean, how does hooking up with you change her mind whether asian people are taking the country over or not?
: "So in your view point, you would react NEGATIVELY to when presented with that. Sorry, I've run into this enough times and gotten defensive about it as you would have and seen it to be a failure in tactics. That's just keyboard jockeying and mental masturbation on what you THINK might work. Instead you either completely ignore it and eject, which is completely valid if you don't want to be around it, or ignore and and respond with a positive action and push through. This is field tested and not some theoretical after school special."
: "Yes, I would have reacted negatively and eject, because I would not have been interested in this girl any more.
Please, this has nothing to do with KJing or mental masturbation. This about having your values and morals holding to them, even if you want get laid. You said yourself, that you thought: "White girl, please", meaning that you know she is talking completly racist bullshit. Still you escalated. By doing this you set imo the girl above your values (besides being incongruent). Yes, you got laid. But have you been honest to yourself? Imo, no."
What do you guys think about that?
Btw, I am not sure if he was serious on the comments or if he just wants to justify his lay, since it was a pretty good marketing move on the PU event.