Hey guys, I have a problem and I would be thankful if some of you could help me solve it.

It’s about cold approach street game only. Without having any natural advantages, I can still hook many sets, and I can get a spontanous date with an attractive girl almost every day I go out for street sarging (by doing only a few approaches).

So what’s the problem?

This summer I will travel to two Eastern European countries, and I want to do many street approaches there. Probably I will do much worse there, than in my home country. What Mark has written about the rejections in Argentina was quite shocking to hear for me. It could be that I will face the same thing because of the language barrier, poor logistics as a tourist, anti-Western bias (I’ve heard so), different mentality etc. And I don't know whether my "cool bohemian guy"-image (which helps me so much at home) will work there (because of cultural differences).

As a newbie, I was used to get 10 or more straight rejections in a row each day and it didn’t matter so much for me, because I could blame my lack of game for it. But now, as an intermediate PUA with solid game (I think so), I take every single rejection personally and I can’t even think of standing the pain of getting rejected 10 times in a row on a single day.

So how can I get over this, when I’m going to another country where I will probably be less successful and face much more rejection? Can you tell me some useful mindsets or self-motivation tips or something like that? Have you ever been to a situation like that and how did you manage it?

Think about it this way. When you start weight training it's really difficult. As you get stronger the weights get easier, but then you stop improving. The way you keep progressinb is adding weights so it's just as hard as when you started. This is the same thing. Even if you get blown out a ton, fuck it, the challenge will just make you that much better.

I remember the first time I went to a super tough to get into club - specifically, Avenue back in the day. Hottest group of women in one place at one time I had ever seen. I was totally not prepared for that environment. Literally every guy there had table service, I was at my friend's table, had no idea how to adjust. I just got blow out after blow out for two hours. At three I had burned the room, literally gotten rejected by every girl who wasn't making out with somebody else, so I left, met some friends at a bar, and was so desensitized from getting rejected by models for two hours straight, that I walked straight up to the first hot girl I saw, cut through her friends, chatted with her, made out with her, got her number, hooked up with her a week later, because I was beyond caring what anybody at that bar thought of me.

Seriously, by that time in the night, my social anxiety was totally non-existent, and I think it was a serious turning point in my game.

You get over it by doing it.

Have fun. The girls are much hotter out here.

Thanks for the replies so far.

(05-03-2011 08:46 AM)Jon Wrote:  Think about it this way. When you start weight training it's really difficult. As you get stronger the weights get easier, but then you stop improving. The way you keep progressinb is adding weights so it's just as hard as when you started. This is the same thing. Even if you get blown out a ton, fuck it, the challenge will just make you that much better.

A very good mindset. Maybe I should adopt this way of thinking.

(05-03-2011 07:45 AM)General G Wrote:  "cool bohemian guy"-image (which helps me so much at home)

How does that look like? (Pictures of you or similarly styled guys would be great)
Cheers

(05-04-2011 06:24 AM)Happy Wrote:  

(05-03-2011 07:45 AM)General G Wrote:  "cool bohemian guy"-image (which helps me so much at home)

How does that look like? (Pictures of you or similarly styled guys would be great)
Cheers

This image is not so much about the looks, it's more about a strong and "artistic-minded" identity: individualism, being passionate about something girls can relate to emotionally (the arts), representing a cool "scene", being cosmopolitan (travelled a lot, fluent in several languages), etc.

My outfit: tight blue jeans, tight green or black t-shirt, black leather jacket, scarf, designer stubble, facon haircut.

so... hipster?

(05-04-2011 08:18 AM)Jon Wrote:  so... hipster?

I prefer “bohemian”, because here in Europe hipsters often look like this…

http://www.pixelfactor.org/wp-content/up...ipster.jpg

…and I like to look much more masculine than that.