On my old blog, I basically explained it thus:

- There are two types of attraction: passive and active
- Passive are things you are: looks, style, fashion, social proof, etc.
- Active are things you do: escalate, tease, charisma, etc.

More passive you have, the less active you need. The less passive you have the more active you need. Being ugly or short doesn't mean you can't get girls, it means it will just be harder. Being good-looking doesn't mean that you will get every girl without trying, it just means you don't have to try as much.

And yes, you are mentally masturbating...