Imo, there's a different between desire and sex drive.

A classic way to see is to jerk off. Right after you jerk off(your sex drive should be zero), you STILL want to find a hot girl and fuck you.

However, right after you actually fuck a girl, it will help you lower BOTH desire and drive. The different between jerking off and fucking a girl is that jerking off ONLY lowers your sex drive while fucking a girl lower BOTH desire and drive.

The higher your sexual desire of a certain girl, the higher your neediness will be of her. On the other hand, if you have strong arousal from her, it doesnt necessary means you're more needy around her.

Another example would be, you have personal boundary around stripper. Sure, most of them are very arousing, but most of us would think they are a bit "dirty" and not really gf/wife material. However, what they're doing can be very arousing but none of us are in any hurry to MUST get her phone number or doing anything to get her.

My personal examples is that, it seem WAY easier for me to pickup black hair white girls than it is to pickup the blond. Frankly, i have slightly higher desire toward the blond than the black hair girls, thus it makes me more outcome dependent. On the other hand, i'm ok with just flirting and enjoying the sexual tension with certain girls and thus get more success.

High sex drive imo is the key point why certain men are more successful at getting laid than other people. What most people do not know is the differentiate between high sex drive and high sexual desire. You MUST fuck that hb9 or that model vs you can fuck 8-10 times a night.

Imo, your sexual life would be so much better if you can increase the sex drive(which is mainly your physical body) while at the same time lower your desires(neediness).

Thoughts?

There are some people who don't care so much about fucking various women,but they want a relationship.I was one of them.From that perspective I realised that I lost a lot of women from men that had higher sexual drive,and putted a stronger sexual frame on the interaction,while I was focusing on gaming and "calculating logistics".
And of course that clicked on me,from experience when I saw that I started getting well with women,that I had no relationship expectations,and only sexual drive.Of course,at long term, this didnt solve the problem of neediness,because even if you know all the truths about pick up and you have all the best experience in the world,if you put yourself in that frame of desperation and submission,then neediness will eventually appear somewhere.
With that said,neediness is the enemy,and sexual drive an attractive trait,although its important to control it ,because sometimes can intimidate the other person.