Leo - are you communicating totally directly with these women? Are you taking the initiative?

Thanks Extropy! I appreciate your input. I acted like that because I was mad at her. We had a misunderstanding based in a MISTAKE I MADE and she tried to regain control in a way that I don't like, trying to make me jealous, but I understand her. If I'm honest with myself I was the one that screwed it up, it just that sometimes my ego gets in the middle when stuff like this happens. Yeah, she couldn't be more obvious about wanting to go out with me, but my fucking pride didn't alllow me to take action, I couldn't forget what she did but it looks like she did forget what I did, and to be honest I wouldn't do what she did. Fuck, sometimes I have a big ego, even when I screwd it up. Thanks again Extropy.

(05-23-2011 07:29 PM)Extropy Wrote:  

(05-22-2011 05:20 PM)Leo Wrote:  -HBCoworker: Leo, what are we gonna do tonight?
-Leo: IDK about you, but I'm leaving.
-HBCoworker: Do you like my closing clothes? (she changed her uniform for informal clothes to go out)
-Leo: What? Oh, yeah!
-HBCoworker: Are you gonna help me close the bar tonight? I'll pay you if you want.
-Leo: No, no thanks. I have plans, I want to enjoy my Sat. night.

She couldn't have made it more obvious that she wants you to ask her out for a few drinks.

Beginnging sentences with "I don't know" or "What?" usually looks insecure.

If you like her and want to spend more time with her, it's best to take the lead and just initiate it, even when she doesn't give you such obvious hints. Your responses look like you want to get rid of her.
-HBCoworker: Leo, what are we gonna do tonight?
-Leo: I'm going to XY with some friends. What are your plans? (you could take her out with your friends or ask her for another day)
-HBCoworker: Do you like my closing clothes? (she changed her uniform for informal clothes to go out)
-Leo: Yeah, you look great.
-HBCoworker: Are you gonna help me close the bar tonight? I'll pay you if you want.
-Leo: I'm in quite a rush... but I help you with it, sure. (Even if I don't want to hit on her, I would help my co-worker if she asks me for it unless I'm really busy and just don't have the time. You want to help your partners and be someone people can count on, right?)

Yes..