(05-11-2011 09:44 AM)JtheZipper Wrote: Great post and very valid.
I hear you. The game is all tied to the physical I think. Yeah you can be funny, dress well and have a good fashion sense but if the chick (an 8 or 9) does not like your face and overall look, its not going to go anywhere. Most gurus would say "inner game man...inner game" when in reality you can be as confident as possible when approaching and the 9 turns you down because you are not her type. The all say its a mind set. I think not. I used to think that and it got me as far as I am now, really in limbo. Its about how to get through that code, how to make you the 6 or 7 be adequate in the eyes of the 9 or 10 if one is lucky enough. These chicks can have any guy they can have so competition is fierce.
Yeah its about cracking that code. I have read tons of stuff, been to bootcamps and been thru the PUA ringer. Have not found the answer if there is one. Its not Mystery Method, its not juggler, its not cocky &funny.
My friend the question is how?
Yeah. I think to be honest, I have already way over analyzed in my initial post, but hell, the point definitely still stands.
I think despite the fact that physical attraction is still a fundamental - and that you can (generally) only do so much to improve the way you look, and despite the fact that this does mean that when it comes to day game our attractiveness is what counts to a large degree, I don't think this should hold anybody down.
If someone has the motivation and energy to approach 250 girls cold approach during the day I respect them, and they're going to get some success, even if it isnt with the best looking women.
Whilst attraction does dictate a lot, life is an enigma. The whole world is. And thats my game philosophy. Just go out there and be yourself. Let biology and the world do the rest.
However at the same time, do what you can to improve your attractiveness. Nothing is set in stone. Lets say for arguments sake im a 7 out of 10. This doesnt mean that a 9 is out of the picture. Sure it means its less likely, but nothing is stopping you from approaching that 9 that knows shes gods gift. I guess its quite a raw, perhaps objectifying way to think about things, to think in such raw evolutionary terms, but hey.
I think there is a lot to be said about being grateful for what we can get. Be grateful that being in the average percentile range gives us higher likelyhoods with other average percentiles. It could be a lot worse. But at the same time, god, we are so inbuilt with this evolutionary hardwire to mate with the hottest women possible. Its completley biological. Whether your quasimodo or brad pitt, we all have the same wiring.
I guess we need to have a sense of realism at the end of the day. Sure, try your luck with the hotter girls, but accept the average girls to. Ive wasted 3 years of uni (in terms of game) because my standards have been so high. I've slept with two girls, fingered a few more, and pulled a lot more. But the fact that I havent slept with more girls, or had LTR's is mainly due high standards.
And I guess this is a big question that is interesting to ponder. Are you going to always chase the hottest tail and be constantly losing out? Or are you going to go for the more average tail that is way easier but way less satisfying. At least in initial terms.
I guess as we get older..we settle for less. We accept shit. We get older and want a partner and even from like 18-22 I have realized my standards lowering. Well, the type of girl I would fuck drunk as hell has lowered. But gf material is still pretty much the same and thats why im still single. lol.